Miscarriage

Information on the symptoms, signs and causes of a miscarriage and advice on understanding and coping with miscarriage
If a pregnancy ends within the first six months it is known as a miscarriage. Miscarriages are quite common in the first three months of pregnancy. Probably at least one in six clinically recognised pregnancies ends this way. At this stage a miscarriage usually happens because there is something wrong with the baby. A later miscarriage may be due to the placenta not developing or working properly, or the cervix being weak and opening too early in the pregnancy.

An early miscarriage can be rather like a period, with bleeding and a similar sort of aching pain, maybe occurring on and off, happening at the time when a period would have been due. With a later miscarriage, bleeding is likely to be accompanied by pains that feel more like the pains that come with labour.

If you bleed or begin to have pains, you should contact the person who is giving you antenatal care, either at the hospital or your GP's surgery. You may be told to lie down quietly or to come into hospital immediately. Sometimes the bleeding stops by itself and your pregnancy will carry on quite normally. But if a miscarriage is going to happen, there is very little that anyone can do to stop it.

After a miscarriage, you may have a 'D and C' (that is, dilatation and curettage) to empty the womb. This is done under anaesthetic. The cervix is gently widened and the lining of the womb scraped or sucked away. The cervix narrows again afterwards.

One miscarriage will not affect your chances of having a baby in the future. Even after three miscarriages you still stand a good chance of carrying a baby to term. If you have three or more miscarriages, you should be referred for further investigations. In some cases, all investigations will be normal and no precise cause found.

A miscarriage can be very difficult to come to terms with. You may feel disappointed, angry, or even guilty, wondering what you did wrong. Some people fear that the miscarriage may have been caused by making love, though this is extremely unlikely. In fact, whatever the cause, it is very rarely anyone's fault.

You will almost certainly feel a sense of loss. You need time to grieve over the lost baby just as you would over the death of anyone close to you, especially if the miscarriage has happened later in pregnancy. Many people find it helps to have something to remember their baby by. In early pregnancy you might be able to have a picture of a scan. After about four months you could ask for a photograph of the baby. If your miscarriage is very late you may be able to see and hold your baby, if you wish, as well as having a photograph. Talking also helps. Talk about your feelings with your partner and those close to you.
Author : Department of Health: The Pregnancy Book 2004 - 2005

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i had my miscarriage at 6 weeks but i didnt have any symptoms until what would of been 8 weeks. my baby would have been born december 22,2012. i also had another one in january 2013 but i found out after the fact. but it deff hurts. my husband and i have been trying for 3 yrs and no luck. but my periods have changed since. they now last 2-3 days and the first day is bad and heavy but the rest is barely anything. does anybody else have this? i would love some advice on what i can do to up my chances of conceiving. thanks!
by mrsPell 20th Jun 2013, 3:43pm
yes i am a young teenager the age of 16 at the time of my baby's loss , i had the implant put in two months before my loss , the doctor did a pregnancy test and it came back negative so it was all good i thought i had no worries until january the 5th i was walking home with my best friend and all of a sudden had really bad cramp pains in my stomach and bleeding i crawled home , i didnt think anything of it at the time later that night the cramp and bleeding didnt stop and i passed out a big browny pink blood clot the size of a golf ball. I immediantley the following morning and saw a doctor and she told me i miscarried and test may have been wrong ! i feel so bad now because i feel i am to blame for it , no matter how far you are gone when this happens it is still your little baby and is very upsetting all my thoughts go out to you strong women who go through so much pain but carry on in life
by jessicajack 20th Jun 2013, 3:18pm
I'm still hurting ! i had a miscarriage December 1st ! i didn't even expect it , the night before my stomach was hurting really bad and my mum was like that's not good so i said mum stop always thinking the worst . she told me to go lay down & my stomach started hurting worse. : ( i didn't know what was going on ....my mum rushed me to the hospital on our way i felt stuff coming out of my vagina area I immediately put my hands in my pants & it was blood clots everywhere then my mum told me I was miscarrying I was screaming because I wanted my baby, when we got to the hospital they did an ultrasound & they told me my baby still had a heartbeat so I thought it was hope they my child can still make it .....we waited waited and waited & then it happened THE WORST FEELING EVER !!! I found out it was a boy , they let me hold him & take pics with him ....it was the saddest day of my life & it still is ...... I was 17weeks (I named him Ty'Ron Rashaud Williams) my angel
by rydah 29th Dec 2010, 9:13am
I just wanted to send my love and thoughts to anyone that has had a miscarriage. I had one last week at 10 weeks and it was the most awful thing I have been through. I was taken into to A&E around 2am with terrible bleeding and pain, I had an internal and was told I was contracting and my cervix was open. The blood loss was huge and the pain awful I was contracting every minute and was left with no pain relief. 5 hours later I passed the baby which I didn't want to see but sadly I did when I went to the toilet with the doctor it fell to the floor. I can't explain how terrible it all was and have the deepest sympathy for anyone going through this as I had never imagined it before. I have been crying now since last Wednesday and today is the only day I haven't taken my painkillers and actually have slept. The blood loss is still a constant reminder every time I go to the toilet, I just wish it would stop. You are left feeling empty and so sad and I know I'm a strong person but I'm suffering at the moment. My husband has been amazing and I do have a lot of support. So I'm sending you all a hug and best wishes x
by CLHC 5th Oct 2010, 5:15pm
could it be possible my dates are wrong or am i having a miscarriage? my dates 10 wks ultrasound 5+ . need to hear success stories please.x
by pertle 27th Sep 2010, 12:56pm
hi i just commpleted IVF treatment i was due to do a pregnancy test in three days. after they put the embryos in you are to wait two weeks (i had two embryos put in and this is my first time) and started my period yesterday, it was very light clear pink blood to start with then stopped, i thought 'oh thats nothing' but then i had stomach ache. when i went to the toilet and wiped myself i have full red period with large dark red clots, some very large. i phoned the clinic and they said i may have a negative result on my test but not to do the test untill this sat, three days time. i couldn't wait and did the test today. its negative. i was so upset, i feel very empty now. IVF is very painful and stressfull emotionally and i will have to wait a while before i am ready to try again, my husband is very supportive and i could never have done this with out him. it is so much money to pay. luckily our first try was on the NHS as i'm sure alot of you don't know it only takes a letter from your doctor and proof you have been trying to concieve to get one single go at ivf on the nhs. You need to be 30 years old up to the age of 35 and never had ivf before and have no childern already. i stumbled upon this one day on the computer and found an application form to give to the doctor. i was last told that i couldn't have it on the nhs because i was not yet 36, they didn't tell me when the brought it down to 30 years old. i found this out myself.
by dellafrisbee 23rd Sep 2010, 8:51am
I was six months pregnant fell down in the bath heavily stamp on my leg but that moment i did not feel any pain but two days later i felt something coming out from my vagina i went to my doctor i was examine and it was miscarriage and my doc said my womb need to be tid when pregnant.
by alonglie 24th Aug 2010, 2:48pm
Hello everyone. Well Im in nursing school and found out I was pregnant. I wasnt too thrilled at first bc Im in school, working, and already have 4 little ones at home. I had my tubes done after our fourth child 2 1/2 years ago so when I found out I was pregnant I was shocked. I was just getting used to being pregnant again and happy that I was having a baby when on Friday 7/2/2/2010 I started spotting (12 wks). I clld the GYN ER and was told to see if it turns into bleeding. Well it didnt. Then on 7/5/2010 I started bleeding with clots and abdominal pain. Went straight to GYN ER and was examined. Was told my baby had no heart beat. I was devestated and it has been a week now. I'm doing better but I feel as reading all of your stories thats exactly what I went through. Please keep your heads up ladies and your time will come. You are all in my prayers.
by Sticky05 12th Aug 2010, 10:24am
To frustrated,my husband was telling me of a case on the radio of a lady who had multiple miscarriages to the extent when the doctors hospitalised her when they were about to occcur but no avail.They finally sent her to a fertility clinic where they tested her blood and it was too thick and thus caused a miscarriage. The doctor prescribed a aspirin and she carried a baby to term. She took a leaflet to her doctor who thanked her and intimated that it could also be the cause for several other women.If only it was as simple for others.other women have had babies over forty. After two miscarriages i still hope to be one of them. I have a beautiful three year old but i still mourn for my lost ones
by suzi2 12th Aug 2010, 10:18am
40yrs old 11wks pregnant, had first sonogram today was told after vaginal sonogram my baby's heartbeat could not be seen and that she measured the size of an 8wk 6day gestational aged fetus. I am sheduled for a D&C on thursday I had no unusal pain or discomfort, no bleeding they just dont see a heartbeat. Am so sad and confused this is my 2nd miscarriage
by tiyi 12th Aug 2010, 9:45am
I am currently 5 weeks pregnant. I have had two miscarriages and one healthy little boy. First pregnancy was in August 2004 and I miscarried. Then I had my little boy in April of 2007 then I had another miscarriage in December of 2010. Currently I am awaiting my doctor's appt. hoping to find out that I am having a normal, healthy pregnancy. I wish I could go now so I could not worry soo much.
by bmore 11th Jun 2010, 5:21pm
Hello ladies, I am almost 42 I have had 5 miscarrages . The first was in 2005 then the other 4 within the next 3 1/2 years. I never had any trouble at all getting pregnant just keeping it . My longest was 11 weeks the only thing my doc keep telling me was there's no reason I can not have a healthy pregnacy. All I had was a blood test I had a d&c with my 4th was told something about too many chromozones???? Well I didn't try for 6 months wanting to wait for awhile . It has been probably a year we have not used any protection at all and I am not getting pregnent at all now ???? Any ideas on what's going on
by Frustrated 18th May 2010, 5:21pm
I found out i was pregnant in january, me and my partener were soo excited but unfortunately had a missed miscarriage in march :( it started as like a brown discharge then gradually blood became pouring out of me with huge black clots. i am scared this will happen in the future, has anyone had this happen then had a successful pregnancy after ?
thanks xx
by zoeemm 14th May 2010, 5:37pm
Hi, i'm 25 fixing to be 26 in june. My b/f of nine years and i are trying to have a baby. my periods are usually the first of every month for 3 days. So jan. 2010 came around and on the 1st i started and stopped on the 3rd, like normal, Feb came around and it wasn't until the 5th - 9th it was late, and lasted longer than normal. but the thing that really has me upset, is that it was so heavy, dark red, and what appeared to be very large fleshy pieces. i've NEVER had anything like this before. i know the logical thing would be go to a doctor, but i've never been one to run to the doctor. so then in march, i had no period all month until today. march 28th. i don't understand what is happening, if you have a similar story and know whats going on please let me know. i really feel that i had a miscarriage, but don't know if i should say anything to bob or not, ya know. i'm a very private person even with him and it's been almost 10 years...lol. so please if you have any advice please let me know. thank you so much!
by wantabamommy 14th May 2010, 5:30pm
Im 20 years old and found out i was pregnant when i was already 6 weeks. I was shocked and instantly stopped drinking and smoking and worried that my celebrating over christmas may have effected it but i was told it was too early. Had my first scan at 8 weeks5days and doctor said ut was normal with heartbeat157bpm. She however nver pointed out it was too small for dates 1.6cm which may have indicated a growth problem. My partner and I were overjoyed. At 12 weeks i started to get some spotting and didnt know what it was so we went to A+e imediately. we were told that I was making to much of a big deal because i was so young and our first and it was normal to spot so they sent us back home without even examining me. Two days later the bleeding got worse so we went to gynea where scan showed the fetus had no heartbeat and it had died at 11 weeks but was tiny for dates. It was devastating and we decided to have an ERPC on the next available appointment- the following monday !!!. That night i started getting really bad agonising abdominal pains like contractions i would presume and an ambulance had to be called and i was given gas and strong pain killers. In the hospital room we were given we were alone still waiting for the doctor and blood started puring out with water. I got an urge to pee and went to loo when all of a sudden a perfectly developed fetus popped out. it was agonising and scary as i was on my own in the loo and next thing i knew id flushed the toilet and forgot that had just happened only to remember vaguely the following day when we had another scan to see if i had really come out.. i wasnt imagining things. I feel devastated that I flushed my baby down the toilet and don t remember much. and still dont know what caused it. why wasnt my baby growing at a normal rate and why did i miscarry?im young and was becoming healty, took folic acid and tried my best to produce a healthy baby. Even though we were told it was genetic abnormalities, i doubt it as these are most common until 8 weeks not 11.
by lella27 14th May 2010, 4:32pm
I am six weeks pregnant this is my 2nd pregnancy. It has been 11 years ago with my 1st pregnancy and have a 11yr. old son. Im so nervous that I might have a miscarriage just because it has been so long ago I was pregnant. Am I just trippin out or what? Don't have no symptoms of miscarrying just real nervous.
by JazzyRN 14th May 2010, 4:20pm
I found out on Friday (day we were moving) that I was miscarrying - I should have been 10 weeks pregnant but the baby had hardly grown since the scan at 8+4. I had a scan at 6 weeks after a bleed - but that was an implantation bleed, bled again at 8 weeks - went to A&E bleeding stopped but scanned on the Monday and all was fine - strong heartbeat and little one was wriggling around. Pregnancy symptoms carried on but last Wed started spotting and it went on all day then stopped and came back Thurs am - worse - just generally didn't stop - went for scan Friday and saw baby just lying there with no heartbeat.

Have opted to try and have miscarriage naturally as didn't fancy the op. Will be scanned again a week on Thurs to see if it's all gone or not.

Worreid as am 39 now. We'd been trying for 7 months when we conceived - at least we know we can at least do that - but do worry about running out of time.....
by lightweight 10th Feb 2010, 4:59am
I have just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and am completely devastated! My fiance and I have been together for nearly 10 years and had been trying to get pregnant for 2. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries a year ago and was due to start treatment when we found out I was pregnant. We were so happy as we were not only having a baby but we had done it on our own. We went for a scan at 6 weeks and saw a very strong heartbeat, we were so happy! A week later I went for an emergency scan as I had started bleeding. This showed that the heartbeat was weak, we were both devastated but remained positive for the scan a week later. I stayed at home all week and did nothing but rest in the hope that this would help. Unfortunately when we went for the following scan there was no heartbeat. I was distraught. I felt like someone had literally ripped my heart from my chest.
I have spent the last four days in hospital undergoing the medical management procedure to complete the miscarriage. Luckily I didn't require surgery but was it took 2 full days of treatment and another of waiting for it to complete.
My fiance has been wonderful and so supportive but I still feel so alone.
by EMJ86 8th Feb 2010, 9:22am
i have just had a miscarriage - I was 15 weeks and lost the baby just after Christmas however the baby was still alive when I lost it - not sure if this is normal as reading everyones comments they are all saying their baby had stopped growing. Mine still had a heart beat and moved its limbs for a few minutes after I lost it. Waiting on the results of the PM - has taken me ages to get pregnant and I am 40 so not sure if that was my only chance.
by madgolfer 5th Jan 2010, 3:47pm
Hi Anna
Sounds like exactly what happened to me too so I know what you're going through, I hope everything went okay at your next appointment anyway. Keep your chin up xxx
by laurap120 5th Jan 2010, 3:46pm
Hi i am 30 and was 5 wks pregnant last wk with 1st baby but started bleeding spotting like a brown discharge then went to red, its not heavy at all off and on spotting is this normal i have got my 2nd scan on the 23rd Dec do you think this is bad news? Can anyone give me advise?
by sassygaz 21st Dec 2009, 9:07am
I found out that i was pregnant the day befor thanksgiving this year. About 2 wks before that, I had started what i had assumed to be a very light period, had for about a week, then stopped for about a day and then continued with the same, more brownish, light flow, spotting if u will. but still thought nothing of it i had no symptoms to even make me think i could be pregnant, just the spotting and some slight breast discomfort but i usually have that w/my periods anyway. but something told me, the day before thanksgiving after work to take a preg. test. so i had one handy and did it and 2 llines showed up almost immediatley. i darn near dropped the stick in the toilet lol. anyway so i was on my way to my boyfriends house anyway for the night and i quick packed a bag and went over and told him. I wish everyone could have seen his face, he was so excited, but then i started crying b/c of the spotting, I didnt know why or what was wrong so he took me to the hospital and 2 hrs later said that i was about
2 wks preg. but it was listed as a threatened miscarriage b/c of the bleeding. was told to f/u with my gyno in a few days and they would do another hcg level, it was 331 at the hospital. made my appt. for that monday which is the day that, if i didnt find out about being preg. I would of just assumed it was my normal period. I woke up with bad cramps which is normal for me and a heavy flow, also normal for me. as the day went on i did seem to pass some clots but they fell in the toilet before i could catch them also i was at work. then in the afternoon i went to my gyno said everything looked ok except the bleeding but my cervix was closed. so she had me go get another hcg level and then that is when i found out that i was losing the pregnancy it dropped to 103. I was hysterical but only on the inside at 1st b/c i was at work when they called with the results. I just kept thinking I had to tell my boyfriend that we werent gonna be parents just yet. and that was the worse that and telling my mom who was so excited as well to be a grandma and now she isnt. but Im young and still have time to try again.
by creitz19 21st Dec 2009, 9:07am
im 39 and was nearly 12 wks pregnant with my first baby, but had a missed miscarriage last wk ,i had a scan at 5wks because i had slight bleeding but i saw my tiny baby with a flicker of a heart beat and it gave me so much comfort to see that everything was ok, but now i just feel so empty and sad, i was looking foward to this so much, i am so scared that the same will happen again
by miffell 17th Dec 2009, 9:28am
Hi everyone,
I was 6 weeks yesterday and due to cramps and a brown discharge I was asked to go to the EPU. They took my blood so am awaiting that. Sadly, i miscarried yesterday and it was horrible to see when I went to the bathroom. I feel so sad and tearful but I have to tell myself that maybe it was not meant to be and that hopefully I will have a child soon.
by expectantnewmother 14th Dec 2009, 9:18am
Hi Anna, not sure how to reply to you directly but I wanted to let you know what happened to me. I miscarried in October (my birthday actually) and I found it emotionally very difficult. I was 13 weeks but baby was around 6. I bled heavily for 3-4 weeks, then some spotting and light bleeding for a week then my period proper. So it was around 6 weeks the natural way, I thought it was never going to end. I am pleased now that i went for the natural approach as i feel the less interference with your body the better for repairing yourself. The doctor thought I might need some intervention (i was frightened too, it sounds horrible!) but i am glad i left it. We are going to start trying again in the new year.....Good luck to you x
by happysurprise 14th Dec 2009, 9:17am
Hi everyone. This is the first forum I have been one. I found out last week that I had miscarried, I was 10 weeks but the baby stopped growing a 6 weeks. This was our first pregnancy, we are devastated. The hospital said that my body hasnt caught up with whats happened yet so to expec heavy bleeding and cramps in the next couple of weeks. I've got another apt next week, they said that if it hasn't happened naturally then they will explain other options. I am really scared about this and hope it all happens naurally, can anyone give me any info if you have been through this too? xxx
by anna198128 8th Dec 2009, 9:28am
To All You Dear Ladies Who Want a Baby, I, also had a miscarriage when I was 22. I just found out I was 8 weeks pregnant on a Wednesday, and started spotting on that Saturday. On Sunday, I went to the hospital and was told I lost that baby I wanted so badly. I was not able to conceive again until I had my first daughter June of 1976. In March of 1981 I had a tubal pregnancy, and almost died, when it ruptured. The Doctor told me that with one ovary I would most likely never have anymore children. On Sept. 1983, my miracle baby was born, I didn't do anything like IVF, in My case, I just said, It's in the hands of a higher power, and if I beat the odds, then I will be blessed. Today I have 5 grandchildren, and love being their granny. I submitted this with hopes that it helps someone else who has had, or having a difficult time getting pregnant. 2 years ago, my husband and I became foster parents. We had 3 children placed in our care, and were able to adopt them all so they would not be seperated. I guess you could say that with a 10, 8, and 6 year old, we will be parents forever. A WORD OF WARNING!! If you think you are pregnant, and start having sharp pain with or without bleeding, do not hesitate to go to the Doctor or Emergency Room. It is so much better to be safe, than wait. I went to the hospital, and they were not sure if it was my appendix or what. They sent me home at 5am and said call your Doctor when they open and see him. I ruptured at 7am and started bleeding internally. No blood came out like a period. Although I was in serious pain, I did not know I was on the verge of dying. I went into shock,and my husband and sister called 911. I was rushed into surgery as I came through the ER doors and stabilized. We all know our bodies, and instead of leaving the ER the first time, should have insisted that my Doctor be called ASAP. Well, just be pushy, if you feel that a Doctor is not getting the message you are sending.
by CTGRANNY 20th Oct 2009, 9:42am
hi guys, i have a 9 year old already, me and my partner have been trying for 7 yrs to get pregnant and out the blue my period was late so i did a test and i was pregnant i was so so excited. at 10weeks(wed 23rd sept) i started to bleed went to hospital checked my out and said everything was fine and they booked me in for a scan on the monday. i was so scared and having to wait 5 days 4 my scan i booked my self a private scan for the thursday. i was told that the baby had died around 6 weeks and i was having a missed miscarriage. the 1 thing in my life i wanted so much was taken away. 1 thing that gives me hope next time i try is that i can get pregnant after 7 long years of trying.
by sammijane80 19th Oct 2009, 9:54am
Hi guys, back in february 2006, i was 19, i found out i was pregnant, with my 1st, told my family and friends about the great news, couple of days later, started to bleed.me n my parents, and the father went to the hospital to find out wahat was happenin, and was sent to the early baby unit day after for a scan, i was 8 weeks gone, and the scan confirmed it was a misscarriage. The sack was there but nothing was in it! Me and my partner was so upset. and had to tell everyone the sad news. 6 onths later i was diagnosed with cancer. So when they say things happen for a reason, THEY DO!! and i couldn have gone through with it, because i would have died. I was given 2 weeks to live as the doctors kept sending me away with the ailments i was gving. So the misscariage happened for a reason. We have been trying to conceive for 2 years now, 3 years after cancer, and nothing has happened, starting ivf tretment next month.
by Janey23 28th Sep 2009, 9:28am
I lost a baby at 8wks 2 yr ago and was really devasted,yesterday i did a test,felt so happy,last night i bled so went to doc today who confirmed iwas havn a early miscarriage,i feel so cheated,i just found out for it to be taken the same day,totally gutted isnt the word i really wanted this baby!! in a way am glad it was early on n i didnt have wks or mths of planning like the last one,but it hurts just the same
by cheryl4038 27th Aug 2009, 8:35am
Hi guys
I found out on the 10th of august i was pregnant we were so excited we have 2 already but knew we wanted more. I went to doctors to confirm and then began a brown discharge i got scared and pushed for an early scan. On the 20th we went for our scan to be told they saw nothing and refered us to get blood tests and checked we thought they were being careful. My blood results came back and the hcg wasnt high i was told to go back on saturday they should have doubled. They didnt and that afternoon i lost all symptoms i had had and began bleeding. The saturday results came back they had gone up but not enough they would be repeated today. After spending yesterday having massive heavy bleeding and lots of clots i went today for tests and the hcg lvls had risen again, now i need more bloods on thurs to hopefully show they are coming down. In my heart i know i have miscarried but now they think i may have an ectopic. I just want it all to stop so i can try again. I haven't really grieved because i was only pregnant for a short time, and not having seen it on the scan was in a strange way good when dealing with this. This is my second miscarriage, after my first I went on to have 2 very healthy kids which makes the loss more bearable. Be positive guys time heals a lot of things
by jcgmum 26th Aug 2009, 10:56am
Please Please Please go to your Doctor with any concernsover miscarring, I found out I was pregnant just over 11 weeks ago, I miscarried at 8weeks, twins, I was then devestated, I am a little betternow thanksto the wonderful people at my local hospital, The Doctor I saw at my local surgery was very unsympathetic, I could not see my usual Doctor, It seems I now have ectopic complications, so please if you are concerned, do not feel you are being neurotic, your not! do not believe it cannot happen to you because it can, ask for help to relieve the worry, hopefully unlike me you will then go on to have a wonderful pregnancy and baby.
by lillyfish 24th Aug 2009, 9:02am
Hi Lisa

I had a miss Carriage in April this yr , i was 12 weeks gone and my baby had died at 9 weeks and i had not the slightest idea. I went to the hospital and they gave me a pill to take to start the process off. However this did not work for me and had to go back into hospital on the saturday and have 4 tablets put into my cervix to help with the miss carraige . Did she not give you any other option than a Pill ?

You will feel lost and alone but honestly things do get better and there is no saying that you wont get pregnant again . I have just coped out again and going for my early pregnancy scan soon xxx

Lut
by lut1981 24th Aug 2009, 9:01am
hi all.im lisa and 40..i just returned from a morning at the hospital ..for what was my first check with the doc at what was 11 weeks of pregnancy..he decided to check for viable pregnancy with a scan ...and cudnt find anything..until he did a internal scan .......and i was told the babys heart had stopped at 7 weeks 1 day...i feel numb...i hafta go in on sunday for medical intervention as my bodys not misscarryng and hanging on...i was given a pill..and now im wondering if i should of..and should i go in after the nurse telling me about the miso tablets they will be using and about it not being licensed for use this way!!i dont know what to do ...has anyone used this method?i dont know what to do ...this is a new partner he doesnt have any children this wud of been his first...and its been 19 years since my last child!..my partners just flown back to usa and we are due to be married in 4 weeks...i feelso lost and alone :(
by scatter 13th Aug 2009, 6:09pm
Sarahc13, You and I are too much alike!! I have a 2 1/2 yr old little boy, my second child I miscarried also on nov 13th. We got pregnant in May and I have had 2 good ultrasounds and good lab work. Today, I went for a first trimester screening (I am 12 weeks). I was informed that my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and 6 days. Ironically, this would have been the same day that I had my last vaginal untrasound. I am wondering if this has anything to do with it?!? I decided to use the drop misoprostol and get this all over with. So, I am now experiencing all the pain and bleeding. I think I am going to go see a specialist after 6 weeks. I was told it would take that long for me to ovulate again. And I will be 35 on nov 13th. I feel my clock ticking and right now I cannot imagine having to go through this again!
by mab 10th Aug 2009, 9:10am
HI all, reading all these entries makes me realise how you can never take pregnancy for granted. I too have suffered the heartache of a miscarriage - anembryonic miscarriage picked up at my booking appointment at 12 weeks with no symptoms at all. Shocked to say the least but I hoped to miscarry naturally only to have no progress 2 1/2 weeks later. I then opted for medical intervention and it was all over with in a few hours of my day. I have no regrets with this as I needed to move on and grieve. I was told to wait 3 months before trying to conceive - that was at the beginning of June and I have just found out i am pregnant - 6 weeks. Delighted but pertrified that the same thing will happen again as I was completely symptom free. But fingers crossed and I am trying to stay positive - my advice to everyone else. I helps me to believe that a miscarriage happens for a reason and not because of something you do.... enjoy every minute of your pregnancy, aches and all, as it's mother nature at her work !!
by AskBaby8140 10th Aug 2009, 9:10am
Hi, I do have a daughter, she is 2 and a half. I so want another child. last year on November 13th I had a miscarriage at 6 or 7 weeks; i was so upset but did not suffer physically other than what i can describe as just a period pain. we decided to try again after my next period and i got pregnant again late april. i just had another miscarriage on july 13th at 12 weeks; this one was so painful but at first, when it happened, i did not feel the remorse that i did at the first - i think i was in shock but since i knew what was happening i did not cry so much. now, two and a half weeks later, i have still not finished miscarrying - i opted to miscarry naturally but have to go back next week for ERPC or medical management if it is not all out. i want to try again - i am so confused. if I have a D&C can i conceive again? with the medical management it blocks progesterone - you need that for pregnancy but it says that you can get pregnant before your next period. how? i thought you needed progesterone to be pregnant?
i had to have a caesarian on my first pregnancy - is this the reaosn i miscarried?
I don't know what to do - nobody at work understands, they all see me every day and i told a couple of people i was still miscarrying and would have to go to hospital next week if it had not finished and then i heard that they were talking behind my back saying i was making up stories and being a drama queen.
by sarahc13 4th Aug 2009, 12:35pm
Hi All, I went for my dating scan last tuesday to be told there was no heartbeat and that the baby only measured 8.5 weeks. I am absolutely devastated as there were no signs of miscarriage (we had also seen the heartbeat at 7wks) so me and my partner were so excited about telling others after we had been for the scan. I had a ERCP last wednesday which was no where near as bad as i thought it would be but felt that the staff were not very supportive or forthcoming with information. The pain and bleeding only lasted a few days, now my emotions are all over the place and to top it off a close friend has just told us she is pregnant, i want to feel happy for her but cant help but feel jealous and angry. I'v also mixed feelings about when to try again, i want to start straight away but not sure if this is the best option. The doc told me i am no longer immune to rubella so have to be immunised again but i have been told i can't get pregnant until 3 months after this. All i want at this time is to know i've got a wee one on the way. i'm so confused. My thoughts go out to you all at this time.....
by Den83 15th Jul 2009, 11:46am
Hi, I went for my dating scan today only to be told that there was not hearbeat. I was measuring exact to the amount of weeks I am (was 10 wks) so something has happened very recently. Me and my partner are absolutely gutted. It is so upsetting but I know that worst is to come. Ive experienced no cramps or bleeding yet. I now these things happen for a reason but it doesnt make things any easier. Im devasted.
by holleyzow 14th Jul 2009, 5:53pm
I was just 8 weeks pregnant when I found out this week I had a miscarriage. The doctor said he saw a g-sac but there was no yolk sac (embryo) in it. The thing is that I started bleeding about 10 mins after sexual intercourse, so I asked the doc if he think that was the cause, he said that it is a possibility, but also that I could have miscarried a week or two ago, and didn't know/bleed until now. It was my first preganacy. I know many woman want to wait and grive, but I just can't wait to be able to start trying again, because I know as soon as I get pregnant again, I'll be happy again and make this be the past.
by essencyee 29th Jun 2009, 9:56am
Hi, I have had 3 mc and im trying again now. I know hoe it feels and you feel so alone - I just want to say to all of you be brave and stong and like you say everything happens for a reason. Our time will come. Best of luck to all of you, Thinking of you through these hard times. xxxx
by natasha9991 24th Jun 2009, 9:42am
heyyaa eveyone. i suffered a misscarage at 5 mounths preg on the 17th jan, me and my long term partener of 4 years are now trying for another little one. but i still cant get over the fact that 3 dayss after me 20 week scan i lost my little girl. just member eveythink happens for a reason. keep ur head up x
by ShareenElliisBabyx 8th Jun 2009, 9:20am
I found out yesterday that I had misscarried at 11 weeks. It was my first pregnancy and I ate and lived healthly and loved the feeling of being pregnant. It started with some small bleeding and I was told that it was quite common and not to worry, a few hours later I decided to get a doctors opinion, they told me to go home and rest and give it a few days. Later that evening I was suffering at home and decided to go to hospital, where they were so amazing and understanding. The pain was terrible, but they were able to help with pain relief and explain what was happening and talked me through it all. I just want to say, if you think something is wrong, always get professional advise, at first I thought that I was being an inconvienience, but people are there to help you when you need it, so take advantage and make a fuss until you get help - you and your baby are the most important thing so get all the help you can and need. Unfortunately this pregnancy didn't work out for me, but I do believe that things happen for a reason and hope that next time things work out. Please don't forget your partners also, they are going through a loss too and it must be so hard for them to watch you go through the pain both physically and emotionally and sometimes they must feel helpless, try to help each other. Good luck and love to you all xx
by TV09 1st Jun 2009, 9:06am
hello everyone i have just found out that my baby is dead i am 12 weeks and they say it has been dead at 6 weeks. I cant get my head around it as there has been no signs of any loss, this is my second miss and it has taken me two years from the first miss.I feel lost and I feel that i am running out of time. I go to hospital on friday for a ERPC
by ballshipp 28th May 2009, 9:14am
hello everyone I had a misscarriage on the 27th febuary i was 7 weeks pregnant it was the most painful experience ive ever been through i found out a month late that i had a condition called homostein which raises my blood level and causes blood clotting which my doctor supected that why i had the miscarriage, so therefore my doctor has put me on i asprin a day and doube the folic acid levels, it was quite daunting to have to take so many tablets but in the end i found out last week im pregnant again, m just taking it easy this time around and hoping for the best xoxox
by annoyed 18th May 2009, 9:33am
HELLO EVERYONE I HAD A MISSED MISCARRIAGE AT 11 AND A HALF WEEKS 5 WEEKS AGO. HAD TO HAVE A D AND C . FOR THE PAST 3 DAYS BEEN FEELING VERY QUESY AT THE SAME TIME EACH DAY. MY HUBBY AND I HAVE NOT WAITED UNTIL MY FIRST PERIOD (OF WHICH I AM STILL WAITING). COULD I BE PREGNANT, IT FEELS LIKE THE SAME KIND OF SICKNESS AS LAST TIME.

WOULD APPRECIATE ANY ADVICE X
by cazza73 13th May 2009, 9:35am
Hi all, i'm currently going through a miscarriage, its my first pregnancy and i thought i was about 7 weeks as my last period was 14/1/09. i starting bleeding on thurs 5/3/09 but it was only brown with no pain. i called the doc who referred me to EPAU for scan on 9/3/09. it then got a lot heavier with clots on the 8/3/09. i had a small amount of pain, but nothing as bad as a period. i went to A and E and they just took my blood pressure and temp and said all was normal and to go home. i had my scan yesterday and it came back inconclusive as they said they could see something but not a 7 wk baby. they said this could mean that i'm not as far gone as they thought. they took my blood and i've got to go back on wed for more tests.
deep down i know the baby is not there anymore, even though the bleeding has got a lot less. but i'm just confused as i still don't know for sure. i've tried to prepare myself for the worse and we've had a good cry but i just need to know for sure. Even though tummymonkey wasn't planned we had got used to the idea and looking forward having a new edition to the family. it breaks my heart that there are so many women going though this and i just want to say that i'm thinking of you all. fingers crossed everything will be ok next time and that we shouldn't give up hope. take care x x x x
by tummymonkey 7th May 2009, 9:12am
hi every1 x iv read thru a lot of ur comments n im feeling so selfish 4 feeling how i do x i am a mum i av 6kids x i had a missed mc in aug 05 x atm i am 7wks preg tho i started bleeding yesterday i am goin 4a scan later n i am so scared 2 b yold my baby has gone x we wer both so excited 2 b expecting i feel iv let my partner down n altho hes bein such good support i knw hes hurting as much as me x i dont wna close him out but am hurting so much i cant talk 2 him x
by taniabelfast 30th Apr 2009, 9:17am
i had a miscarriage in february 2009. we had been trying for 2 years and where over the moon i was devastated when i started bleeding and suffering from agonising cramps. i was 6 and a half weeks. i have just done a positive test this morning and was was feeling both excited and scared. fingers crossed this pregnancy lasts and i have a healthy ba y at the end of it
by claire2002 27th Apr 2009, 9:27am
Found out today that i have lost my baby. Had some bleeding over the weekend and terrible abdominal pain, but nothing so bad that i thought it was all over. Went for a scan today and it was all over, except for some intense bleeding this afternoon. It's difficult to put into words how it feels. Everyone says you have to be positive because at least you know you can get pregnant, and i have suffered from endometriosis for a long time and we have been trying for ages. The trouble is, despite this sensible advice, it is still heart-breaking. I have cried all day and feel useless and lost, like part of me is gone. I wish i could say something more upbeat, but i can't - i'm sorry.
by alisonangel 16th Apr 2009, 9:13am
i found out i was pregnant 3weeks ago, i am now 8weeks preg. In 2007 i lost my gorgeous baby girl at 6 months preg. It was devastating, the worst experience of my life. Although she was perfect in every way she just slipped away from us, there is not a moment that goes by that we dont think about her. An now im constantly worrying that somthing may go wong with this baby. I started bleeding yest a little bit with back pain but the hospital assures me that everything seems to be ok. fingas crossed that it is!
by xambax 14th Apr 2009, 12:31pm
I HOPING SOMEONE OUT THERE CAN HELP ME I AM 6 WEEKS PREGNANT, AND HOPE I STILL AM THIS IS MY SECOND PREGNANCY MY FIRST I HAD GESTATIONAL DIABETES, SLIGHT BLEEDING, AND C-SECTION. I AM 6 WEEKS PREGNANT AND I HAVE HAD BRIGHT RED BLEEDING NOT LIKE PERIOD YEST AND STILL TODAY I AM HAVING TO WEAR SANITARY TOWEL STOMACH CRAMPS AND LOST 6 SMALL CLOTS NO BIGGER THAN THIS LETTER O. AM I MISCARRYING? OR IS IT JUST EUTERUS STRETCHING, INTERMITTEN BLEEDING!
by davina666 6th Apr 2009, 9:11am
ive just recently had a miscarriage, me and my husband had been trying for a year and was so excited but it wasnt to be, i feel gutted and heartbroken, i was 10 week gone, people say to think positive and to try again but its so hard and im scared it will happen again, but my husband has been my rock and keeping me strong and hopefully we can try again soon and pray to god everything will be ok.
by nikkiguk 23rd Mar 2009, 9:04am
Hi all, i had a miscarriage 2/16/08, i was so excited when i found out, goin to stores lookin at baby stuff, i couldnt wait, i went in for bleeding and they had already told me i was in early stages of a miscarriage, when i had my ultrasound there was no heartbeat, i was upset i didnt kno what to do, they had made my d&c app. so i wouldnt have to go through seeing it all, but i did, went through the labor pains and everything, i stayed in bed for weeks, not wantin to do anything. then in may 2008 i found out i was pregnant again i was scared what if the same thing would happen? well i went through this pregnancy had to be put on bed rest, my son was born jan. 24 2009, he was 3 1/2 weeks early but healthy as can be. im sorry to hear all your storys but i kno what your goin through, and everythin happens for a reason. my prayers are with you all,
by frannymarie 19th Mar 2009, 9:28am
Reading these stories makes me feel less alone. I have had the worst 3 weeks , so scared and cruelly given hope that I now know was misplaced. We had been planning our pregnancy and were so excited when we got the positive. At 6 weeks I started to lose old blood, I had a scan but nothing could be seen except for a bicornuate uterus and a polyp. The odds were not looking good. I continued to bleed and went for a scan a week later resigned to a failed pregnancy. Low and behold, a heartbeat, everything there where it should be. We were nervousely over the moon. This time they saw a subchorionic clot under the sac, this was the cause of the bleeding. Dont worry they said, just relax. I saw the midwife a week later and then the next day the bleeding changed, red, bright with clots but no pain. Again was sent for a scan( now 8 weeks ) which showed my little bean , heartbeat and it had grown. I went home , the bleeding continued and slowly I started to get mild cramps. I knew this was not right but tried to relax, I had seen the heartbeat again, surely it would be ok. Same night passed what I thought was a clot, it was the sac. I have had the constant nagging pains to remind me since then ( 3 days ). I hope the bleeding stops soon, I am so scared to try again. Upsets me to think at some point on that friday afternoon, it just stopped. Colleagues at work and friends are expecting. Finding this all very difficult.
by ghengis 17th Mar 2009, 9:20am
answer to keg 82. I had a miscarriage last year, when i went for my 12 week scan the pregnancy sac was empty, i was to told i would be able to have a tablet so it would all come away but i refused, i miscarried naturally 2 weeks later. I am now pregnant again and am due for my 1st scan next week but i am terrified nothing will be there again, i dont know how i will cope as this baby means everything to me x
by louisebarrow 13th Mar 2009, 9:17am
Hello all,

Firstly want to say that I am sending so many supporting thoughts to all of you that are going through this awful time. I am currently miscarrying and found out at 10 weeks that my baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. So for 10 weeks I was on this site checking to see everyday how little baby is developing and getting so excited as this was my first pregnancy. It is just so heartbreaking to see that first bit of brown spotting and then you convince yourself after reading various posts in the internet that all is ok - however sadly this time it was not mean to be :( No matter how many precautions you take or how healthy you are I guess you have to come to terms with the fact that it just was not meant to be.
Like many I am so scared about getting pregnant again as feel that I won't be able to get so excited as I will be worrying that it is premature - however I guess that just to get pregnant is a journey in its self so we should all stay as positive as possible and think that one day we will get to be mums for the first time or again :) xxx
by Georgie1979 9th Mar 2009, 9:23am
Hi all, I am currently going through a miscarriage, ( 11 + 4 weeks) I started to bleed last friday. I had a previous miscarrige in July 2007, a missed miscarriage, I did not even know I had lost the baby until I started to bleed, which was a normal period. On Friday, I went straight to the hospital where they examined me, had blood tests, preganancy test followed by an internal. I was still bleeding but not in any pain. The hospital scanned me to find that my cervix was closed and a pregnancy sac was still there, I felt this was positive news, it was then arranged for me to return on Tuesday to check to see if there was a heart beat. During the weekend I continued to bleed, then on Monday evening i was in servere pain with back ache and stomach cramps. I passed lots of tissue and what i thought was the preganancy sac. During the night I was awaken with more pain, I thought my insides were going to fall away,but still more blood loss. I was convinced that I had lost the my baby. On Tuesday I went to the hospital to be scanned , the cervix had opened but the sac was still visible, my miscarriage had stared but still a long way to go. I was told I would still bleed and expect to pass the sac, they offered me medical management but I chose to come back home and let nature takes its course. It is now Friday and I am still bleeding, not as heavy but no sign of the sac or any tissue. Has anyone else had an experience like this. I understand this could last 7-10 days. I have another appointment on Monday should nothing happen over this weekend. I feel until it passes I can't start to grieve and move on. They let me keep a scan photo which I will treasure. This showed that i was 9 + 6 weeks, according to the measurements, so the baby must have stopped growing a short while before the bleeding. I hope this helps anyone else going through what I am. I have found this website and other womens stories a great help. I have no children so I am hoping third time lucky.
Be healthy xxx


by 01F 9th Mar 2009, 9:22am
i lost my baby yesterday....(march 4th 2009) my second child i was far enof along to know what i was having...... a girl... just what i wanted.....( sorry for my spelling hard to see what im doing)... i was cramping and spotting... i went to the dr they took tons of blood than sent me home... i went back a few hours later because the pain got so bad i felt i was in labor...... they did an ultrasound no heart beat.., i didnt know what to do or say i just got up walked out and came home... my baby is still in me they want her to come on her own..... its so hard to do this alone......
by belchyboo 9th Mar 2009, 9:21am
hi i had a miscarrige on the 27th of febuary 2009.. i had slight bleeding and back pain. i went till the hospital just 2 be safe. the scan showed that the baby had no heartbeat. i was 9 wks pregnant, i got tablets the next day 2 open my womb so that the baby would come away naturally. i was devastated because it was my first pregnancy and i had been leading a healthy lifestyle.
u can never be 2 carefull in ur pregnancy even at the slightest symtom.xx
by xmandyxo 2nd Mar 2009, 9:18am
Hi all,
I had a miscarriage august 22nd 2008, when I got to my first scan at 14 weeks, I was told it was one of those things and to go home and the baby would come away on its own. Because the sac was empty there was no way of telling how far along i had been but they did tell me the remains was less than 6mm, me and my partner were devastated, I had been made redundant at 8 weeks and was convinced that the stress of losing my job was the cause to my miscarriage.
We've been trying to get pregnant ever since and I can honestly say I hated people who were pregnant, I hate these people who don't treat there children properly too.

I found out in january that I was pregnant again and i'm finding it really difficult to be excited about this baby. We had an early scan at 7 weeks and there was a definite heartbeat which was going like the clappers and the baby was also 10.1mm but i'm still worried, I'm now 9 weeks and waiting for my first proper midwife appointment and my 12 week scan but already i'm worried about it.
I know I should try nd stay calm but I'm constantly worried about getting to the hospital and nothing being there, I relly don't think I could cope with anything going wrong cos its heartbreaking no matter how early when you lose a baby.
Is anyone else in the same situation?? xx
by keg82 23rd Feb 2009, 12:46pm
hi im new to this sight i am 5 weeks pregnant and suffering from stomache pains nothing mager but i am a bit worried i had a miscarrige in 2003 then had my son in oct2007 i am worried that i will lose this 1
by emma9876 17th Feb 2009, 9:39am
hi,
ive just turned 18 in the end of november. i had a misscarrage on the 5th of december 2008 ivee never felt so alone and hurt. my boyfriend and family wer great always ther for me but it doesnt seem 2 b enough! i was only 11 weeks gone but me n my bf had so many plans had chose our names n that already. i still find it hard i find myself crying before i go to sleep :( also my brother has jus had a baby shes absolutely gorgeous n a love her so much but every tym i see her i wanna jus crawl into a corner nd b alone :O Ive been quite sick nd have had tummy cramps also a couple of weeks ago i had slight blotting i think i could b pregnant but im scared tht i just want it to much nd maken my imagination run wild!
anyway i hope every1 out ther tht has went thruu the sme thing has had the support tht i did
xxxxxxxxxxxx
by koalabear 17th Feb 2009, 9:39am
I have had a missed miscarriage and had to have a DC on wednesday just gone! I am finding it really hard, I feel numb and empty! I know that I have to be strong for my two other children but whenever they are at school or in bed I break! My heart is aching!
by EmmG 17th Feb 2009, 9:38am
Hi my names Pamela and I have just lost my baby I was 18 weeks pregnant it is the hardest thing i have had to go through.
It all started when I was 13 weeks pregnant I started bleeding they told me I had a blood clot attached to my womb I felt relieved because the baby was fine and i had a cause for the bleeding.
Then at a routine scan to measure the clot they discovered my waters had broken and I went into labour the next day I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy called Taylor. His funeral is on wednesday I have never experienced a pain like this I feel so empty I miss my baby boy kicking me all day.
My heart goes out to all of you's because I know the pain you's are going through
take care xxx
by pam24 17th Feb 2009, 9:38am
hi i'm lisa and 6+4wks pregnant
i'm 40 years old already have 2 children ages 10 and 8.this is a new partner who is childless and desperate to be a dad to his own baby as well as my 2. I had 2 miscarriages last year the first in feb at 7/8 wks.I wasn't too bad after the first and found i was the stronger out of the 2 of us.The second was in July at my 12wk scan, we had breathed a sigh of relief to get that far and had thought we were out of the woods, just to be told there was no heart beat.I opted for medical management and went into hospital to recieve hormones to make me deliver.delivering the sac and placenta and the physical pain involved was one of the worst experiences of my life.i went back to work to discover that everyone around me was getting pregnant, i spent many a lonely lunch break in the toilets at work crying.
i have been experiencing really bad back ache and period type pains since monday and am terrified it's happening again.i am going to check myself a hundred times a day for signs of bleeding but as yet there's nothing.spoke to midwife this morning and she said to try not to worry (ha as if).haven't relaxed since finding out about this pregnancy because i know this is probably our last chance at trying for a baby i'm 41 in 8 wks so time is passing me by and it may well be my age that is causing the problems.
i'm not particularly religious but i have never prayed so much as i have this week.i'll let you know how things go and GOOD LUCK to you all out there desperate to be mummies
x x x x x x x x x
by lisaandadz 6th Feb 2009, 12:48pm
hi ya ladies i thought i would share my story
i had a miscarrige last year on july 10th i was 16 weeks it was the worst experience of my life . i felt great through out my pregnancy but then i started to have a little bleed so i went to the docs who did a internal examination and said could see blood at the top of my womb and arranged a scan for me the next day i went for my scan and the baby had died at 8 weeks . i am now 6 weeks pregnant and am so worried that its going to happen again i cant sleep at night i have made a appointment at the docs tomorrow to see if i can have a early scan to just put my mind at rest ....
by littlekelly 5th Feb 2009, 9:56am
i found out i was pregnant just before xmas, everything seemed to be going fine up until last week! i had noticed that my morning sickness had just stopped which i was quite happy about as i had it really bad with my 3 daughters, i didnt think anything of it until i had a little bleed, even then i never feared the worst because it had happened before with my 2nd daughter. i phoned my midwife and told her what had happened she told me notto worry that it doesnt sound like anything major. i went for a scan the next day and was told that there was a gestational sac there but they can not see a baby, there was 2 reasons for this, 1 that i had got my dates totally wrong( i thought i was 10+ weeks) and that the heart beat hadnt developed yet or i was having a miscarrige. i was devastated. ive got to go back tomorrow for another scan but i know deep down inside that ive lost my baby, all my pregnancy syptoms have gone!
by angekhamegden 30th Jan 2009, 9:00am
I had a miscarrige in Aug 2008 and the pain was unbearable especially as it was a "missed" miscarrige, i got pains and terrible leg ache at 14 weeks + a scan revealed the baby had died at 9. i felt cheated and scared about losing another baby if i ever got pregnant again. Me and my partner tried afterwards for another baby but nothing seemed to be happening and i started asking myself questions about maybe am i not able to have a child after the D an C, did something go wrong and i wasnt informed? Last week i did a random test as i do every month and discovered i am pregnant again, my baby is due towards the end of sept 09 so its early days. Im excited and nervous, but i have learned to except that time is a good healer, but you will never forget the memory of your first child.
by Mads0402 26th Jan 2009, 9:37am
Hi, i am 40yrs old and found out just before christmas that i was unexpectantly pregnant, after the shock we were really happy and excited, we then only told our children and close family, eveything was good and i have never felt better, so you can imagine my shock when i went for my 1st scan today only to be told that there was no baby !!!! i feel really lost and empty at the moment and finding it hard to understand one min your laughing with excitement the next your in total shock.........is this normal ??
by davesbaby 20th Jan 2009, 9:30am
Hi, I had 2 m/c's, 1 in Aug 08 and 1 on 1/12/08, i've jst found out i'm pregnant again, its so soon after the last m/c and i'm terrified i'll lose this 1 too. Has any1 experienced the same thing? If so, what was the outcome?? Thanks x
by mariek 15th Jan 2009, 9:57am
I am new to this site, but I am not new to the subject of miscarriage. I have a beautiful son who is nearly six years old and I am 11 weeks pregnant with my second. Before I had my son I suffered a miscarriage at 6-7 weeks the whole experience totally devastated me and my partner. I was an emotional wreck or quite a while afterwards. I could not bare a baby anywhere near me. I suppose that I was "lucky" that it happened early but it still hurt me very badly. About a year after became pregnant with son and did nothing but worry all the way through my pregnancy. The slightest thing had me rushing to the hospital just to check that everything was OK, thankfully it was and he s now a happy and healthy little boy. I had a slight bleed at 6-7 weeks in this pregnancy and with my son so I did worry a little but everything seems OK, have got my scan in a couple of weeks so fingers crossed! I know it may seem that it may feel like it may never happen but I am proof. Miracles do happen. Good luck everyonexxxx
by bubsyq 12th Jan 2009, 10:33am
i have had two misscarriges both at 26 weeks one after the other i had to give birth to all 3 of my babies it felt the worse time of my life but you have to carry on its hard to live with but i had another pregnancy after two msscarriges and my baby is now 1yr old healthy little boy i would like to say to all those ladies out there that have gone threw almost the same as myself they think thats it there never going to have children then please do not think like that miricals worked for me good luck x x x
by kez09 7th Jan 2009, 8:49am
I lost a baby in August and I can't describe the physical and emotional pain that I went through. To my surprise I fell pregnant again immediatley - I am now 15 weeks pregnant again but have had a terrible time with tummy pain and bleeding but baby is still fighting fit and wiggles its little bum on every scan.
I'm not sure if this little one will survive but I will never give up trying. I have been told that if I bleed again I must put my feet up and seek medical advise as soon as possible. It dosen't always mean its over. To Michaelsbird - I really feel for you but different hospitals recommend different things a friend of mine had to wait three months until she tried again - I was advised to simply wait until my next period so try not to worry too much if you are pregnant again so soon after just embrace it, eat well and get plenty of rest.
by Sharonbbc 7th Jan 2009, 8:49am
i misscarried in november 7 was my birthday i was 3 months was really horrible wouldnt wish it apon any one i am now preg again only 4 weeks tho is it to soon do you think i will lose this one cause i got preg so soon after
by michaelsbird 5th Jan 2009, 9:13am
Some Advice Please. We lost our little girl after 6 months of trying year after year to conceive. I had two prior miscarrages and was told I had an incompent cervix and needed to get stiched up. We waited and Angelita slowly died in me and I gave birth to her July 1st. It's 5 months later and I'm driving myself crazy thinking about her and getting depressed, I'm 33 years old and getting pregnant is not easy for me since I have PCOS. Everyday it feels worse. Even if we were to try again I'm so scared of what could happen and that alone would stress me out. I get mad at my husband when he tells me he understands, I know he's just being supportive but now I feel like I'm driving myself crazy. Any advice. Thank you for listening.
by Ive 5th Jan 2009, 9:13am
please i need an advice. i lost 7 months pregnance on october 2008 and i have been trying to get pregnant. i am pregnant but i started seeing blood. what do i do to stop the blood?
by ihuoma 19th Dec 2008, 10:02am
I found out i was pregnant at 5weeks gone, and sadly 3days after getting the good news i started bleeding and sadly lost it...all i seem to think about is the baby,,and i want to try again and have been i just dont know what the signs are to look out for,, i began feelin sick in the after noon into evening i cant bear the thought of eating anything unless i really fancy it but then wen i go to eat it i dont want it i got headaches what does anyone think?? im confused xxxx
by gbl 10th Dec 2008, 8:44am
I am sitting in work reading through everyones messages with tears in my eyes. I lost a baby in May this year, I have an 8 year old son and baby wasn't planned but losing it broke my heart. I felt so alone and the pain of passing the feotal sack was horrendous, something I would never wish on anyone. I wish I had known about these sites at the time as I couldn't talk to anyone and drank my way through the pain.
I am now 7 weeks pregnant again but I can't enjoy it as I'm so frightened of going through it all again, I admire you all for staying strong and hope you all find happiness, I would appreciate you keeping your fingers crossed for me and my little baby bean xx
by Noglet 3rd Dec 2008, 8:01am
I found out I was pregnant in March 08 But at 15 weeks I found blood and knew something was not right, I had stopped feeling sick and didnt crave bread at about 12 weeks but I just thought that I was in my second trimester, The hospital could not give me a scan straight away and I had to stay in bed for three days before having the scan, I had a missed miscarrage and my baby had only lived for 12weeks 6 days, I had to pass the baby naturally and was supposed to go back to hospital in 2 days to do it, I passed it while I was at home and I have never gone through something that traumatic in the hole of my life. I empathise will all of you. Family around me dont understand how it feels, most of them now have forgotten it has happened even though my baby would of been born a couple of weeks ago! All I can say is im scared to try again but I know I was born to be a mom and what ever it takes I will be a mom one day!!! This forum can really help you realise you are not the only one!!!! xxxx
by xnatnoox 24th Nov 2008, 9:33am
hi. i'm 16 and on the cotraceptive pill. i have been on it for around 6 months now so everything should be settleing down, but last week i started bleeding quite heavily, and before hand had a small amount of brownish discharge, i have been feeling quite sick in the night and have stomach aches quite alot. am i haveing a miscarriage?
by sophie16 24th Nov 2008, 9:33am
hi im 19.when i was 17 i had a misscarrige at 16 weeks i was devasted. but i found out i was pregnant in may 2008 i was delighted i could not have been happier. i was even more excited when i passed 16 weeks. when i was 24 weeks i went into labour i had a little baby girl katie 1lb 3 onces she was beautiful. the doctors said it was because i had an incompetent cervix but the doctors told me that the next time i concieve they will scan me every 2 weeks so make sure the same thing doesnt happen im scared. when is it safe to try again?
by mellissssa 13th Nov 2008, 9:31am
I found out I was pregant in late march and had an ultrasound to find out the edd, since I wasn't 100% sure of my LMP. I had an ultrasound in april and was 7 wks 3 days, I later found out that at 7 wks 5days the heartbeat stopped. We had been trying to only a few months, but I was still devastated. I had a D & C and everything was fine. I found out again in middle sept that we are pregnant again. We had an ultrasound in middle october and we are now almost 11 wks along and so far everything is going great. I had a "peak" in nausea/vomitting around 9 wks. But, now that has settled and my energy has gone up greatly. I am not telling many people at this time though, I just want to wait until we're further along and have better reassurance of a healthy pregnancy! Pregnancy is a wonderful time, and congrats to all you mother-to-be's out there. We all know miscarriage is something we can not control, so do less worrying and relax and enjoy this time.
by smileymommy 6th Nov 2008, 8:54am
I experienced a miscarriage at 5 months. I went into labour and it happened very fast. I "gave birth" to baby girl and she was very beautiful. She was still alive as i could see her heart thumping away. I asked the doctors if I could hold her. I held my baby and sang her a lullaby untill she slowly slipped away. To all the ladies out there, who are experiencing a difficult pregnancy, one thing you should always remember that dont be affraid to ask every question you have; dont have any doubt in your mind. If your not happy with something badger the doctors and the midwives about it. If at any time you are told to bed rest, do exactly that and make sure you are surrouded with people that are willing to look after you. Unfortunately, I did not have that support.
To all mothers-to-be, CONGRATULATIONS and all the best! I wish you , your baby and your family happiness!
by ANURINKAL 4th Nov 2008, 9:04am
there is something comforting in reading about all the experiences you women have been through. however i am still in shock, angry and very upset. i had a miscarriage last week 22nd oct at 11 weeks having found out the baby died two weeks before. i feel guilty as i had felt wrong for those two weeks but did nothing about it until i had a show. i really want to get pregnant again soon but am worried itll all happen again. i miss the feeling of being pregnant and i think i thought too much about the baby i would have had. i dont know when to start trying again??
by rosiejo 30th Oct 2008, 9:41am
Hello. Its so sad listening to everyones stories. My heart goes out to you all. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in April this year. At the time i didnt know i was pregnant and was having the most awful cramping, i didnt think much of it as it lasted only 3 days. The week after i did a test and found out i was pregnant. I had forgotton about the cramping as it was my first pregnancy. I went for dating scan and ound i have a missed miscarriage. I had to have a D&C in hospital. it was awful, so painful after. I am now 7wks pregnant and very worried about miscarring again. I just pray that everything will go well.
by Keensy 30th Oct 2008, 9:41am
I suffered a misscarrige at 6 weeks pregnant on the 14th september2008 , now its the 25th october and im 6 weeks pregnant again so soon, so there is hope ladies i hope this one goes well i feel ok , The first one i lost i had pains everyday .this pregnancy i dont feel anything different to when im not pregnant but doctors have sent my blood samples off and confirmed i am im still in disbelief after 4 home tests!
please please please god mak this baby a healthy one xxxx
baby dust to all ttc
by EMM4SCARLETT 27th Oct 2008, 8:56am
Peace to all mothers,
I am joinning this page with the same pain and feelings as you all.. I had a misscariage at 18weeks, we had a beautiful baby boy. He was all shaped..he looked so blessed going to His Creator. His face was all shining and he gave me light too. He seemed like sleeping. I will never ever forget our baby, our first baby,, our first joy...may God unite us with him in Heaven.. May God bless all of us soon with fullterm pregnancies and healthy babies.. Please dont lose hopes. We'll meet them in Heaven. Please have full trust and faith in God.
by fitesa 20th Oct 2008, 8:52am
hello.sorry to hear about all your losses and pain. i had a miscarriage at 11.5 weeks on saturday. i had a scan and found out that the baby had probably died at 9 weeks, my heart is aching as i saw the baby 2 weeks before, its heart beating away. all i can think about is the happiness i felt at that scan for it to be taken away. on monday i had .... (contractions as i found out) and i passed the baby. it was the most horrific thing i have ever had to do. i wanna try for another baby but so scared of losing again. i cannot sleep and i hate myself but i am trying to concentrate on the future and hopefully one day having a baby x
by sammyhilton2003 6th Oct 2008, 9:46am
hi i have just read all the messages on the page and i hope and wish all the best for you all in conceving future children i had a miscarriage early last month when i had my routine scan on the 3rd september i found out that my baby had died six weeks previous but i hadnt started bleeding but did start that night i had the medical evacuation as the list for the sergical evacuation was so long but on the 12th september after rushing to the toilet i passed my baby which i had to take to the hospital we arranged a creamation which took place on the 22nd sept i have kept the ashes but dont yet know what to do with them but im sure i will know when the time is right i want to try again straight away as i feel im ready but some how cant stop felling quilty as if im trying to replace something i have lost maybe im not ready yet as if i got pregnant right away i would be a nervous wreak
by tigercharm3 6th Oct 2008, 9:46am
hi all. i had two misscarriages last year. i was 20 weeks with the first one it was a beautiful little girl. i had her cremated and the hospital gave me pics of her and the tape measure they used on her i got a lovely box withher foot and handprints and other little things to do with my baby katy in to keep foreverer . i was greiving terribly and not prepared for it at all. straight afterwards i got caught again. this time i reached 19 weeks. it was a little boy called harry. i had him buried and put katys ashes with him. the hospital said it was due to an invcompetant ervix and that they knew about it after my first misscarriage. but that they dont do anything until after the third one. i am 6 weeks pregnant now and very scared i do not wish to lose another child. am i within my rightws to change health care proffesionals, will they get my old notes quickly enough to help me? i dont think i could sit around waiting to bury another child again. its been a year and i still greive somedays i`m incapacitated, i dont think i have room for more heartache.
by allybob 29th Sep 2008, 9:12am
I'm an older potential 1st time mum (40) and I've just had my third miscarriage ( my 2nd this year ) and you just have to try and stay positive. I was disappointed when we lost the first baby, but put it down as a normal occurrance. I was devastated by the second as it had taken us 2 years to concieve again , but after the D&C we tried to carry on as normal, and then three days after our wedding in August 08 we found out we were pregnant again. I was convinced that this would be the one, but sadly no - we lost it again at 7 weeks. I am now booked in with the consultant to start investigative tests , but I have to remain hopeful. Depression is destructive to your self esteem and your relationship - what will be will be, and hopefully I will be a mum soon.
by SandraW 22nd Sep 2008, 9:00am
I also had a miscarriage a few days ago. I was 8 weeks. I started to bleed 10 days ago and I went to the ER to get an u/s since I hadn't had one yet. There was just an empty sac measuring at only 5 1/2 weeks. I bled for a full week before I finally passed the sac on this past Sunday. I'm a little disappointed with my Dr. as he didn't prepare me at all for all the cramping and pain - almost like contractions - that came with this.
I'm feeling a little better now since I know it's done and I can move forward, but I don't know when I'm going to start TTC again. My husband wants to try asap, but I'm just scared now of this happening again. I don't think I can go through the pain and disappointment of this again.
LSC - I'm hoping that this is a normal feeling and will pass over time. Good Luck.
by kayee 4th Sep 2008, 8:43am
Hi everyone, i've just had a miscarriage 5 days ago (i was 6 weeks pregnant) i only found a ppt on the monday when i started having strange symptoms but no sooner had i found out when i started developing pain and more bleeding(large clots), we had a scan and saw the heart beat of our tiny gestation sac(but it was still our baby!!!). My body still feels pregnant, still having morning sickness feelings and stomach still tight on an evening... such a weird feeling... people keep saying well it wasn't really a baby but to us it was because we saw a little heart beat on the scan.... anyway that'll be it for ttc for at least 4-5 months as i don't think i could go through the terrible days at the hospital of the worst bleeding i've ever seen(it's really scared me). Hope what i'm feeling is totally normal?
by LSC 3rd Sep 2008, 9:22am
i had a miscarriage in december i found it really hard as not many people new as i was only 6 weeks pregnant but now im pregnant again im 6 weeks at the mo and finding it difficult not to worry, but fingers crossed everything will be okay this time round
by rachel012x 19th Aug 2008, 8:38am
Hi everyone, just wanted to share what happened to me.

I had a miscarriage beginning of April this year, I was exactly 12wks pregnant and already showing. It was awful and it's only now 18wks later that I'm at a stage where I can talk about it openly and not get upset. It takes time, but I promise you, it does get easier, a cliche I know, but it's true. Its different for everyone, but I found the hardest thing to deal with was that there was nothing 'physical' to grieve over per say. But found that planting a tree in the garden helped, something to remember the baby by and a way of not just forgetting about it and moving on as seems to happen when you leave the hospital. Also writing a small poem and framing it helped alot as it way our way of saying goodbye.

But would also like to add a ray of hope, I just felt that I wanted to get pregnant as soon as possible afterwards and am now 6wks pregnant and feeling very positive about it.
by Salty 11th Aug 2008, 8:46am
Natli - I really do know what you're feeling. I miscarried at 7 weeks last June and I remember the terrible feeling of loss and the fear of it happening again. For me, I also had a desperate desire to be pregnant again straight away and I really wanted to talk to other people that had gone through the same thing. You're not alone - I ended up chatting to two women that had also miscarried in the past and both expressed the same sadness and fear.

If it's any encouragement to you, I was pregnant again 2 months later and I'm due to give birth next week. I bled for about 4 weeks after my miscarriage - longer than many women - but I was still physically ready to conceive after my next period. I was amazed! I found the first 12 weeks hard and I constantly had to stop myself from worrying that it would happen again as stress and anxiety certainly doesn't help! But all has been well. I really hope and pray that you will have a similar experience and find yourself pregnant again as soon as you're emotionally and physically ready to start trying.
by Beedee 7th May 2008, 5:46pm
Went for my scan yestaday and found out id had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I dont know what to do or what to think, im scared to go bak to the hospital, i don't know whats going to happen and now im scared to get pregnant agen incase it happens again. I dont know what the best way to remove it and could really do with advise. this is the worst feeling a woman could feel.
by Natli 25th Apr 2008, 8:40am
I have found out this morning that the baby has died. I am now sitting here with the beginning pains of a miscarriage. It's hideous and I don't know what to do I don't just want to sit on the toilet and let it happen and flush my baby away. My poor husband is downstairs bravely looking after our gorgeous 11 month old daughter and I'm just having to suffer alone.
by lornski 17th Apr 2008, 7:34am
i had a miscarriage last July when i was 6 weeks then i was told i had pcos and wouldn't be able to fall pregnant again i'm now 8 weeks pregnant hang in there i will happen hope all goes well 4 ya
by british 3rd Apr 2008, 8:28am
im deeply depressed im 24 and lost my baby in july this year i was 3 months pregnant it was a missed miscarriage i cant help thinking of the baby i lost i had small service and have two scan pics which i keep in my purse. iv been trying to get pregnant since september and it just aint happening. i have period 1st of every month this month i took test a day befor period was due but it was neg but my period never came im now ten days late.
by crystal24 12th Dec 2007, 12:56pm

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