Choosing a middle name

Advice on choosing a middle name for your baby.
While there is no particular reason for you to give your baby a middle name, for many it has now become a social norm. There are many benefits to incorporating one or more middle names into your child's title, not least because it means that you don't have to narrow your choice of favourite names down to just one!

Choosing middle names for your baby allows you to be more creative than you perhaps could be with a single name as it gives you the opportunity to pair a more flamboyant first name with a 'safer' middle name or vice versa. This not only helps to create a more balanced name for your child, but also means that you are giving them the option to use either as their main name when they grow up. Its generally common place to give boys more traditional first names paired with more elaborate middle names, while for girls this tends to be the other way around.

There aren't any real restrictions as to how many middle names your baby can have (although its generally limited to four), and this can be beneficial in itself. Middle names can provide the perfect hiding place for any family name that you and your partner are under pressure to include but that you don't particularly like. Middle names also provide you with the opportunity to incorporate any special names that you would like to include in your baby's title but don't want to use as a first name.

If you plan to name your son or daughter after a family member, or with a name that begins with the same initial as that of another family member, unique middle names help to bring individuality to the name and also causes less confusion in terms of forms and post.

When choosing middle names for your new baby, try to avoid faddy or really common names and instead go for something that sounds good, compliments both the first and surname you have in mind and rolls off the tongue easily (very important for those 'i'm using your full name because you're in trouble' moments when your baby grows into a teenager). Additionally, you should always check that the initials of your chosen name combination don't spell anything unfortunate (doing this will help ensure your child avoids peer ridicule!). Generally, longer middle names compliment shorter first names and vice versa, however you will only be able to get a real feel for the flow of a name when you try it in combination with your surname.

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I'm expecting my 4th child and the hospital have told me its a girl my partner has already decided on a first name "Lexus" (BIG car fan) but i would love to give her a middle name and cant seem to think of one that would go well with Lexus any suggestions?? :-)
by Missybower 5th Sep 2011, 11:16am
Well my partner would like our child to have stephen as its middle name . Hes naming it after his brother stephen who passed away:)
by katie12 18th Mar 2011, 4:55pm
I think my girl is going to be called Beklija Angela, and if i am having a boy, he will be called either Georgius Islam or Raimondas (Raymond) Islam.. Islam is my husbands dads name, and i think it is so unusual.
by martyna137 2nd Feb 2011, 5:49pm
It looks like we will be having a girl and have decided on the name Robyn. I am having trouble thinking of a second name for her. Any suggestions?
by Jacquh01 19th Jan 2011, 9:25am
My baby's middle name is Noah and everybody I know hates it, but I love it so that's all that matters.
by ProudMummyToBabyJaco 29th Dec 2010, 9:14am
i am having a girl in feb her first name will b Syla but cant come up with a middle name any suggestions? already have two boys Justin Allen and Dominik Ray. Hoping to find an uncommon middle name for our little girl.
by 3timemommy 22nd Nov 2010, 3:35pm
joshua james or dylan james?? thoughts?
by KeiraMarie 25th Oct 2010, 10:36am
hi there i have a little girl called carly louise foxley i named her carly coz her dads middle name is carl and louise coz my middle name and various other family members name is louise lol. this time I'm having a boy and we r dead set on the name ollie but not sure of a middle name yet. my dad died last year so wanted to put his name (alan) somewhere but ollie alan foxley doesnt sound right so i thought maybe oliver alan foxley on the birth certificate but have him known as ollie and explain to him wen he is older. a few people have voiced their opinions n dont seem to think alan goes at all the only other name i cud use in remembrance is David as that was dads middle name so it wud be ollie david foxley. please help i really dnt now what to do n baby is due 13th December lol :)
by XChantalX 25th Oct 2010, 10:35am
ok i am having a lil boy and as of right now his first name is zachary last name is going to be toledo i would like to have a middle name that is 4 to 5 letters long please any ideas will help greatly
by ohmoma 16th Aug 2010, 5:06pm
Michaela susan, for the fact my mum was named susan and my husbands mum is susan, it couldnt have been anymore easier to pick a middle name.
by kelly81 12th Aug 2010, 11:00am
ryan alex james and kara diane is what i named my two. when i took the wee man to the doctors for the first time his name came up 'raj crawford'! i didn't even realise it was his name untill i realised thoses were his initials!
by Jigamoo 18th May 2010, 5:35pm
I'm looking for a mn to go with the first name Osiris. I like softer sounding names and the last name ends with a "e" sound. Thanks!
by HockeyMommy 18th May 2010, 5:06pm
i am having a boy and need a middle name to go with gage
by bugaboo09 14th May 2010, 5:10pm
xmeandthebumpx how about thomas james, thomas anthony,
by lilema89 13th Jan 2010, 11:47am
I have just fallen pregnant again (MC earlier in the year) and have decided on the names Lucie Rose for a girl or Tieler Alan (pronounced Tyler) for a bou.. Would love opinions of what you think x
by wannabemummiii 2nd Dec 2009, 9:12am
my babys due in april so i dont no what sex it is but 4 a boy thomas ? but for a girl demi-leigh could any1 help out with a boys middle name thanks .
by xmeandthebumpx 3rd Nov 2009, 1:41pm
My partner is Serbian so this baby will have his surname which means a foreign name would be better. For a girl we like Chiara Athena and for a boy Benito Kristjan
by allyj 26th Oct 2009, 2:45pm
hi, i went for my 12 week scan last friday to find out im actually 18 weeks and having a boy, me and my husband have decided on the name riley, but cant think of a middle name, i would like a middle for him as my other children have them, please help, thanks
by donna2k9 1st Oct 2009, 9:14am
im expecting a little girl in december and me and my partner really like the name olivia-mae, we think they go together really well and i like the different way of spelling mae :)
by corinne18 22nd Sep 2009, 10:17am
If i have a boy i want to name him Chrisitan Alexander.... and call him xander
If i have a girl i want to name her Jasmin but i dont know what a good middle name would be
by kenpomom 19th Sep 2009, 5:43pm
Im Thinking Of A Girl Name And Cant Think Of A Middle Name To Go With Ariel? Help
by Kayleiigh2212 19th Sep 2009, 5:42pm
HI RAC431 - I am thinking about having LYDIA ROSE, think they go together beautifully. I love LYDIA, just stuck for a middle name.
by sachel 11th Sep 2009, 3:40pm
my partner and i have decided if our baby is a girl the middle name will def be Rose after both of our grandmothers. We can't agree on a first name tho, any suggestions? Cos i don't like rose as a first name!
by rac431 10th Aug 2009, 9:30am
caitlin-mia caitlin-jada caitlin-yvi wud help if knew lst name could pik better ones my bbys middle names had meaning which is from heavens garden which she was i tried 4 her 4 yrs and failed but as i spoke to the man upstairs which i neva do n was my last resort it worked i now hav a 4month old healthy bbygal and she was sent from heavens garden to me my lil angel and i tel her evey day xx oh n before u think my bbys name is heavens garden lol its not her name is unusual and that is wat it means
by taiyatai 6th Aug 2009, 10:32am
I am pregnant my first baby's name is joshua I wanna name my second baby Caitlyn but I can't think of a middle name
by Parcerita 16th Apr 2009, 9:20am
i am pregnant with my first baby its a boy the first name leon but cant think of a middle name thats go with isaac for the last name
by sarahbicth 14th Apr 2009, 12:54pm
suggestion for trusler(fri20thFeb)
i think James goes nicely with Leonard, either way round
by Lauren838 9th Apr 2009, 9:29am
I am pregnant wit my first baby and my husband and I are going back and forth about a middle name. We are having a baby boy and we know we want to name him Kayleb but cant find a middle name... any help???
by sarai87 26th Feb 2009, 9:27am
what would be a good name to go with Leonard? first or middle, it doesnt matter
by trusler 20th Feb 2009, 9:13am
i need help i just found out im having Twins and i have picked the Names Jennifer and Rose for them if they are girls but can't decide on a middle name for either of them. can anyone think of any? i would really be glad for the help
by sarahjanetyler 15th Dec 2008, 8:55am
her first name is going to be Teresa after my mother but I have decided to call her by her middle name 'Cheyenne'
by monicabrooke42 9th Dec 2008, 8:46am
for my children we have used our names as middle names so my first name is my first daughters middle name my first son has my partners first name as his middle name and my second daughter has my middle name as her middle name because thats the way we chose 2 do it so no family members could moan that we had 1 persons name and not anothers
by amylou1983 5th Dec 2008, 9:35am
pick a name that has a purpose
my grandad chose my middle name "jane"
i think that sometimes it could be the dads middle name or a man in your life that you aspire
by Becki93 4th Dec 2008, 8:47am
People choose middle names just to pick them but I would that people pick middle names for a purpose and that have a meaning to it,like my brothers name Koife that means born on a friday.But i would like for people to think about choosing a middle name, just because your first name has to have a meaning doesn't mean you cant name your child's name with a meaning
by ANYKA 26th Nov 2008, 9:12am
ive got in mind bernadette for a girl as a middle name and raymond as a middle name there after my auntie and ma dad
by rammie 20th Nov 2008, 9:09am
Hi cud anyone help me! we have found out we are having a little girl and plan on calling her aoibhe (ava in irish) and are stuck on a middle name and cannot agree!! any suggestions would be appreciated! xx
by DaNNii89 10th Nov 2008, 9:53am
IF i have a girl i'ma name her Brooke-Lynn & if it's a boy ima name him Gage but i need a middle name.. any suggestions?
by Swesselmann 16th Sep 2008, 9:08am
My partner and I have decided to give our baby a 1st name that has NEVER been in either family before so it could be quite eccentric (I like old fashioned names) and then the middle names will be (boy) after his father and my grand-father (girl) his aunt who died and my mother/grand-mother that way we think everyone will be happy as the middle names will be 1 from each side of the family...
by Karran 13th Aug 2008, 8:51am
i like the name chaneice-marie its unique and traditional in one lol
by zoeelouise1989 4th Jul 2008, 8:46am
Elsie was the perfect middle name for Violet, it sounds just lovely.
I want my children to have middle names as I have one as does my brothers and sisters.
My daughter has one middle name but if our baby lump is a boy then he will have two middle names because my husband was given two. I like a little bit of continuity but I also lit to be more than a little unique!
by Fayebelle 19th Jun 2008, 8:38am

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