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Can too much sex affect your chances of conceiving?

We share the answer this much-asked question.
There are so many old wives tales surrounding pregnancy and fertility that it can be hard for couples who are trying to conceive to know what to believe. One of the many fabrications held as 'common knowledge' is that having too much sex will reduce your chances of conceiving.

Obviously, your opinion as to whether this is fact or fiction will have a huge impact on your bedroom activities while you're trying to get pregnant. However, if you are one of the many who take this piece of information as fact you could at best be abstaining for no reason and at worse, actually harming your chances of conceiving. So, to help you to enjoy the fun part of getting pregnant, we reveal the answer to this question.

Can you have too much sex when you're trying to get pregnant?

In short the general consensus from the medical profession is no, there is no such thing as too much sex when you're trying for a baby. However, as with most things fertility related the explanation is more complex than it may first appear. For starters, it's not necessarily how much sex you're having that's important per se but instead when exactly you're having it.

You only have approximately 6 days during your monthly cycle when you're classed as being 'fertile'. These are the 5 days leading up to ovulation and the day on which you ovulate. When you're trying for a baby these are the 'important' days of your cycle when having sex could result in pregnancy. No matter how many times you have sex outside of this fertile window you're unlikely to fall pregnant.

The reason for this is because only one egg is released during a menstrual cycle and, after ovulation has taken place, only 12 - 24 hours during which fertilisation can occur. As sperm can survive for up to 5 days in fertile cervical fluid this gives you approximately 6 days during which you can conceive each cycle.

When you're trying for a baby the most important thing is to ensure that there is a plentiful supply of sperm available to fertilise the egg when you ovulate. Some people take this to the extreme and believe that by remaining chaste for most of their cycle and then only having sex on the day they ovulate they are maximising their chances of conceiving. While there is some logic in this thinking, for instance a plentiful amount of sperm is likely to be produced in the ejaculate, this method is far from being a safe bet.

To begin with there is a growing body of evidence that suggests that sperm motility is improved by regular sexual activity. Additionally, having sex regularly also helps to make sure that healthy sperm are being produced. Last, but by no means least, even if you have the most regular cycle it is incredibly difficult to pinpoint the exact time when you ovulate, potentially meaning that you end up missing your window of opportunity each month.

So how much sex should we be having?

To maximise your chances of conceiving most medical professionals recommend that you have sex every two to three days throughout your cycle. This will help to make sure that whenever you ovulate a healthy supply of sperm will be present in your fallopian tubes to fertilise your egg. However, if you are charting your cycle and have a rough idea of when you will ovulate it can be a good idea to try and have sex every day leading up to, and including the day on which an egg is released as well, just to make sure.

How will I know when I ovulate?

Theoretically, women who have a very regular 28 day cycle will ovulate on day 14. However, in reality most women experience significant variation in the length of their cycle each month meaning that the 14 day rule won't be accurate.

There are however some methods that can be used to predict when your most fertile window will be. These can be useful as long as you don't fall into the trap of using your menstrual cycle as a schedule of when you 'must' have sex as this takes the fun out of trying for a baby and can just end up making you both stressed which really won't help your chances of conceiving.

The most basic way to predict ovulation is by counting the number of days in your cycle over a number of months. This will help to give you a picture of how long your cycle typically is. As ovulation tends to take place approximately 14 days from the end of your cycle, counting backwards from the predicted last day should give you an idea of when you will be most fertile.

Monitoring both the amount and consistency of your cervical mucous (you should notice it becomes more abundant and has what can only be described as an 'egg white' appearance and texture around ovulation) and the position of your cervix (it should feel soft and be in a low position) can also help you identify your fertile window. Charting your BBT (basal body temperature) can also be useful although do take care as it is easy to misinterpret the results and miss ovulation. Some women also find shop-bought ovulation kits to be useful.

You should also try to listen to your body's other natural signs. Around the time you ovulate you may notice that your libido is higher than normal, that your breasts feel tender or that you experience a mild ache at one side of your lower abdomen (a sign your ovary is getting ready to release an egg).

By combing all these 'fertility predicting' methods with regular sex you should be able to get a rough idea of when you are most likely conceive during your menstrual cycle.

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Have try to concive for the past 6 years but to no avain. Have visited many hospitals and tried so many medications but nothing happened, we were informed that my husband's sperm is too low. Pls what can i use to get it treated. Can somebody help pls.
by Hellymosco 13th Jul 2011, 10:03am
I never know when i am fertile because my periods are all over the place 1 month i can be on throughout the whole omth and other months i can be on 2 times and some months i dont even come on. Its hard for me to predict when i am fertile
by mgillingham 13th Jun 2011, 9:00am
Your cervix will be soft and high when your most fertile not low as stated in this article
by DL05 2nd Feb 2011, 8:45am
Thank you on this topic of CAN TOO MUCH SEX AFFECT YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING PREGNANT,am a victim of it,but thank GOD that am enlightened about it.Please help me in this question.

I have tried to check my ovulation and to know the right time i do ovulate,sometimes my mensuration varies. I don't have accurate time for my menses so what do i do.Sometimes it will come out after my date or before my date and it will come out black.Please in this condition what do i do.
by nnem 11th Aug 2010, 5:24pm
This really cleared up some thoughts I was having on this subject.
by tochex 8th Sep 2009, 9:28am
This is helped me alot. Thanks
by Freesha 14th May 2009, 10:06am