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Benefits and financial help for single parents

Useful information on the range of benefits and financial help available to single and lone parents including child maintenance and working benefits.


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The cost of bringing up a child can seem quite daunting especially if you are on your own. However, in addition to the baby benefits available to all new parents, there is a support system in place that is specifically designed to provide financial help for single or lone parents.

Income support

Income support is available to those over the age of 16 who are unable to work full time and as a consequence have insufficient funds to live on. If you are a lone parent, work less than 16 hours a week (an average) and have savings under £16,000 you may be eligible to receive this benefit.

The amount you receive is dependent on your individual circumstances and will be calculated based on factors such as your age, your average earnings and the number of dependent children you have. However, regardless of the amount you are granted, if you are eligible for income support you will also receive free prescriptions and dental care, housing and council tax benefits as well as free school meals for your children.

Child Maintenance

Under UK law, both parents are equally responsible for providing financial support for their child regardless of whether they actively contribute to the child's upbringing. This means that if you are raising your child alone, you are entitled to claim child maintenance payments from the non-residential parent. The amount that you will receive is means-tested and will be based on a percentage of his or her income.

The child support agency (CSA) can help to calculate and collect child maintenance support from non-residential parents who live in the UK or work abroad for a UK based employer. The CSA will become involved in this process when either parent asks for assistance or when the parent with care claims income support.

There is also help available for lone parents whose ex-partner has moved abroad as Britain has an arrangement with over 100 countries that allows a parent living in one country to claim maintenance from an ex-partner who lives in another

For more information on child maintenance visit www.csa.gov.uk.

Child Maintenance Premium

You are likely to be eligible for the child maintenance premium if you have sole care of your child and are in receipt of Income Support or income-based Jobseeker's Allowance. This benefit allows you to keep up to £10 per week of any maintenance payments you receive for your children.

Lone Parent Benefits Run-on

If the following statements apply to you, you may be eligible for Lone Parents Benefit Run-on.
  • You have been receiving Income Support, Minimum Income Guarantee or income-based Jobseeker's Allowance continually for at least 26 weeks.


  • You have you been a lone parent for those 26 weeks.


  • You have increased your working hours so that you are now working at least 16 hours a week or you are now working full-time in a job that you expect to last for at least 5 weeks.
If you are going back to work, lone parents benefit run-on provides you with financial help to tide you over until you are paid from your new job.

It is important to be aware that if you are going back to work or increasing your hours at an existing job, you must inform the department from which you receive benefits at once.

Visit the official government website (www.direct.gov.uk) for further information on the benefits available for lone parents.


Author : Lucy MacLauchlan

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to chloelouisha you might be entitled to a grant some single parents get a 500 pound grant to help get things ready for the baby you need to ring your local job centre and council and see what you qualify for they will be happy to help :o) x
added by katyj1987 [Fri 27th Aug 2010 @ 17:04:23]
im in a pickle!Im 23, I currently live with my partner and 1year old daughter and I work full time. Things arent goin well between me and my partner and i think i want too leave him. Im very scared as i dont know at all what i would be entitled too or where i would be left living (id rather stay living where i am already in a 2 bed rented flat, which i couldnt afford living alone) Any advice would be much appreciated.
added by tiasmum1 [Tue 24th Aug 2010 @ 14:47:59]
Im 17 years old im 10 weeks im also single Im curenttly at collage and living with my parents. Im worried about money can you tell me trufly what i would be able to get to help with the baby. x
added by chloelouisha [Tue 24th Aug 2010 @ 09:32:12]
I'm a single mum and am struggling to find out where to get information from regarding how I pay my mortgage and bills when my company stop paying me as the government allowance will not be even close also how do I find out how much I am entoitled to maintenance wise without contacting the csa
added by jenniewiz [Wed 18th Aug 2010 @ 09:26:50]
i am a single 18 year old mother, i have a six month old son who i live on my own with, and i also work full time. i want to go to college and do a full time course and cut my hours at work right down but i think its going to be impossible to have any sort of realistic income when i work it out, is there any way im ever going to be able to go back to college? and to aimz23- why should the government pay for u to have someone else look after ur daughter, ur on benefits already ur being paid for doing nothing as it is least u can do is look after ur own daughter full time, if u really want a break from her get a part time job 16+ hours and youll get 80 percent of childcare costs paid for.
added by taraandjames3232 [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 11:04:43]
me and my daughter is working 16 hours each a week which is in total 32 hours between us, was wondering would we get any help with council tax and rent ?

hope too hear off someone ... many thanks x
added by LOISBURKE [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 11:02:52]
Hi my names daniela, i am 17 years old, at college and i have a 20 month baby boy. im starting work but its 10 hours a week, they are paying me £8.00 a hour, will they cut my benifits off. please get back to me. thank you.
added by dani92 [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 10:59:41]
In reply to aimz23 on how single parents not working don't get any help with chilkdcare is probably because u don't bloody need childcare if ur not working in the 1st place!!! Why would u need childcare, u aint working! Personally I think single unemployed parents get more than enough help for sitting n their butt! I've got a 2year old and another on the way, I'm working full time and will have too go back fulltime after my 2nd child simply because I can't afford not too! I work 35 hrs per week and still struggle at the end of the month, I pay 500 n taxes every month and for what? I I'm not the one getting free rent, dental care, prescriptions, council tax the list goes on! Is that fair? I have no sympathy for you and quite frankly think you need a reality check! Forgive me for being so blunt but it really infuriates me hearing unemployed single parents who get everything that's going acting as if the world owes them something! Go out n earn a living instead of sponging the system !
added by reillys2 [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 10:49:18]
hi im 24 and single mum of a 2 year old and currently 5 months pregnant.i live in a council house, work 4 days a week and get working and child tax credits.obviously i will be on maternity leave soon getting the standard £123 a week.I dont know where i stand with getting my benefits but also need to know if i get help else where like my rent and council tax.as maternity pay etc will not cover the costs.if anyone knows what i should do please help. thanks
added by stacwarrington [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 10:20:14]
hi i from slovakia iam 20week pregnat iam working 16 hour , and i just whot to now if iam in tilted to get any benefit or some help with the rent thank you
added by vieruska [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 10:17:15]
hi i am a single parent to a 9 month old, i have been back at work for a month now full time, i am finding childcare very difficult so i asked my manager about going part time the only problem is with my type of work(senior care worker) you have do do shift work and the shifts are, sleep in shifts once a week, late shifts, early shifts and weekends.this is impossible with a young baby so i feel i have no alturnative but to leave, i am just worried that if i leave i will not be able to claim any benefits ie- income support for 16 weeks???? does anyone know about this???
added by mk09 [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 10:17:08]
Hi,
Please could someone let me know if I can claim any benefits apart from child tax credit and working tax credit.I work 20hours a week as bringing up my son who's 13 virtually on my own.I get no CSA SUPPORT from his father who emigrated 9 years ago and stopped paying me.I am finding it increasingly hard to meet the monthly bills and the demands that kids have these days.I barely manage to make ends meet each month.I do not claim any other benefits.I have my own house so pay all the usual bills plus council tax etc.Would I entitled to anything else.
added by silvannah [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 09:39:48]
I am a single parent and I work always have, and I dont see why the government should pay for to send a 2 yr old to nursery when mum sits at home single or not... I think thats a joke...
added by katiedaily [Thu 12th Aug 2010 @ 09:15:33]
i'm a23 year old single parent and currently on benefits. i want to get my 2 year old daughter into nursery school and cant afford it as its around £40 a week because of her age, i dont see why single mothers who arent working dont get help to pay for childcare because i struggle every week on paying bills. its about time the government do something about it.
added by aimz23 [Fri 11th Jun 2010 @ 17:38:31]
For JODINO - You will be entitledto lone parent Income support and housing benefit and your full council tax will be paid for you. You will recieve Income support and you will get child tax credits for your baby as well as your child benefit. My partner left me last year with a 3 year old and I have a mortgage and am still able to receive lone parent income support and housing benefit etc.. Ring your local jobcentre Monday and say you want to make a claim for income support as you are a lone parent and they will make you an appoinment for you and will sort everything out for you when you go - you will be surprised how much help you actually get - I was!!! x
added by StephxGxB [Fri 21st May 2010 @ 16:08:06]
As a single father i was expecting my ex partner to be asked for maintenance from the csa when i claimed income support, that was over a year ago and nothing, female friends of mine have been contacted almost immediately in these circumstances and their partners forced to pay, i do not want to push this myself as it will cause problems, why does it seem like a different world when the roles are reversed as getting any help is challenging to say the least.
added by silky47 [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 17:40:30]
hi iam 24 i have 2 children ive been off sick from work about 24 weeks i can no longer go back to work and was wondering does anyone know wat benefits im in intilted to?
added by aine1 [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 17:35:12]
hello ppl, i currently pay child maintainance, i do not & will not object to paying this but i do object to the amounts that they ask. I have 2 make payments in excess of 300 a month leaving me with roughly 500 a month to live on. I pay full rent, council tax, gas, electric, water but find i cant afford to eat unless i go homeless. Is ther any benifits i could recieve to help with this? Any info will be taken with many thanks..Ali.
added by alimckeever [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 17:22:24]
iam erica am 17 single and pregnant and iam trying to get benifits but they are telling me iam not intitled to it and a dont know what to do does any one know what i should do if so please comment back
added by EricaMorgan [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 17:15:03]
I have a 7month old baby and have a joint claim with my partner and know my partner and I have had a fall out I lve with him and we have decided nt to be together as were not working out but were living in the same house can I claim single as his know bk with his ex
added by Naheeda [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 16:59:36]
Basically i'm 16 and have just found out im pregnant, i am considering keeping the baby but am concerned on how i am going to surive financially...does anyone know how i would go about applying for benefits and just knowing what i would be eligable for? thanks x
added by Charliex [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 16:45:25]
i have split up with my husband who i have been with for 19yrs and married for 11,we have 3 children,a morgage and my kids are mortified we have split up,he was stain at his mums,on the living room floor forr 3 weeks while he was workin nights cause he could not afford to get another place,i now get an extra 80 pound a week because we aint together and i work 20 hours,i will not leave my kids with a child minder and i work 4-8 so my husband watches them while i work,is 80 a week all i get???????
added by nikinrobbie [Tue 18th May 2010 @ 16:44:55]
I am a single father of four children, I have just lost a management job and I am now working for minimum wage tp keep my tax credits going. Does anyone know what other entitlements I have, as a single parent of four on minimum wage.
added by Radders [Fri 14th May 2010 @ 17:33:21]
I am currently with the father of my son but want to spilt from him as he has started using drugs and I cant stand it. I am not bringing my son up in that enviroment. I work full time on shift work starting from 6am til midnight, I have so many outgoings at the moment and am currently renting a very nice house. I dont know where to start as I cant get child care that would cover my shift so means I would have to quit my job and lose my home. I'm so scared of the unknown can anyone help with what to do next and what I am entitled too to help me and my son.
added by K5180 [Fri 14th May 2010 @ 17:23:28]
Working full time, have a mortgage and pay for childcare. WFTC give me a small sum each month,(around £38) which I fought for. This was following the death of my mother in July 2007. My mother helped with childcare. My annual salary is just under £27,000. I am out from 7.30am until 6.30pm. WFTC made mistakes and now they are saying I owe them £2,000. I would like to drop my hours. What would I be entitled to ?
added by sandii [Fri 14th May 2010 @ 16:54:17]
Hi, im a single parent of 1, my baby is 5 months old and i think i am unable to return to my job as i dont have any childcare due to the unsociable shifts that my job would require me to do. As i have a mortgage, am i right in thinking that i would not be entitled to any income support or benefits??
added by jodino [Fri 14th May 2010 @ 16:24:55]
I'm a single dad, I've just got custody of my daughter at the end of last year, my x partner had a drink problem and social sevices placed her in foster care last august while I gave up my job in London and moved back home to my parents to care for my daughter, my x partner is still claiming child benifit and tax credits which is fraud, and I'm having trouble getting them switched over, although I've told them the situation they are waiting for my x to confirm this which she won't, plus income support have cancelled my claim because i'm not getting the child benifit, does anyone know what I should do?
added by chrisp222 [Fri 14th May 2010 @ 16:15:23]
hi i think its terrible the way some women that single parents on income support are sponging and should go back to work. i was surprised when i saw the comments saying such things so what are single mothers supposed to do if they have no family to look after ther baby put it in a nursery well to be quit frank my child would not be in nursery care at such a young age i want to enjoy my child and she it grow.
added by deborahdx [Wed 27th Jan 2010 @ 09:42:02]
cinders- Depending what ur situation is if u return to work either full/part time u will be entilted to working tax/child tax credit plus child benefit. If you work 16 hrs a week and have a council house u will be entitled to housing and council tax benefit also . If u recieve working tax/ child tax u will receive free precscriptions for urself free dental treatment and a voucher 2wards a prescription for glasses.
added by Jules300979 [Mon 21st Dec 2009 @ 09:49:16]
Hi, i am 23 and 21 weeks pregnant with my second child i work part time 16 hrs, i get over half my rent paid which is a godsend, help with council tax (though not much) working and child tax credits and child benifit, i get no regular help financially from my ex partner he throws a tenner at me when it suits him. I find that i am better off now than before bringing in around £1000 a month sometimes money is tight but my daughter never has to go without like she had to when he was living with us. I went to my local council office the welfare rights departement annd they sorted everything out for me, wrote a list of everything i was entitled to and where i needed to go for the forms, they were really helpful. i also get 80% of my daughters nursery fees paid which is great her having the opportunity to socialise with other children before starting school nursery. Seriously i wouldnt worry too much about being a single mother personally i find it easier than being with a partner x
added by beckee86 [Mon 21st Dec 2009 @ 09:43:04]
Hi , i am 11 weeks pregnant and working full time. I am going to be a single parent and was wandering what benefits i would be entitled to? If any.
added by cinders1980 [Sun 6th Dec 2009 @ 18:05:58]
Hi, i am out of work and two months pregnant, and just wondering what benefits i am entitled to??
added by Blonde01 [Wed 25th Nov 2009 @ 09:42:23]
Hi, Im wandering what benefits i will recieve and any maternity grants? I am currently not working.
added by notty [Mon 2nd Nov 2009 @ 10:32:06]
hi,
can someone tell me what i am entitled to as a single mother,, i am working full time and my baby is due in march.. what housing benefits do i get or do i get any???
added by shelli28 [Thu 29th Oct 2009 @ 09:09:33]
Please Help

I going to become a single partner, i have two children one just 2 and a 3 month old so i am on matenity at the moment, i dont no how i stand financial and what i can receive. Im self employed and should be going back feb but not sure yet, so need to find out what i can receive if i dont go back to work?? PLease help
added by vera31 [Sat 19th Sep 2009 @ 17:39:11]
No one seems to be able to help me. I am a single parent of a 5 year old. I have just had to give up my home and move in with my mum as I work shifts and my work will not change them I start at 06:00 am and finish at 22:00pm ( on 2 shifts) so childcare is hard and can only depend on my mum. It looks like I may have to give up my job as my mum is not fit to look after my boy to much. If I just gave up my job can I claim any money. I have been looking for anoher job with no luck
added by Kagss1 [Mon 14th Sep 2009 @ 10:24:50]
Hello
I dont know if anyone can help, but I'm trying to find out what my collegue can get to help financially. I do not know if she can claim anything from the government. She has a 16year old daughter - I dont think the dad pays any maintenance and she really does find it a struggle. Do you think she would be able to apply for any benifits as she works but not much. If she is likely to recieve any help, will she get backpay as she has only just realised anything about single parent benefits and has been a single parent for 7 years.

Hope you can help,
Thanks

Sally
added by sally1506920108 [Wed 9th Sep 2009 @ 10:39:11]
hi does any body know what my sister can claim.shes on incapasity bennifit at the moment due to poor health,and as a daughter who is 15 wks pregnant and 15 yrs old.nobody seems to know what my sister can or cant claim.please help asap thanks
added by jil3681 [Mon 7th Sep 2009 @ 11:34:54]
my daughter died on 12 aug aged 36 she left a partner of 15 years & a daughter aged 13.he does work full time but is he able to claim any exrtra benefits as he may not be able to keep their home because he won,t be able to pay the mortgage
added by honeyhayze [Wed 2nd Sep 2009 @ 10:41:47]
i am 26 and was married for 5 years when my husband walked out on me and my then 15 month old daughter. i worked in my husbands restaurant so consequently lost my job too. i had to claim benefits as my husband refused to pay any child maintainence and i was penniless. i went to job cengtre for advice as have never claimed benifits before and i was really ashamed. there i was treated with such disdain as if i had my daughter just to claim benifits. it was mortifying. they shouldnt make people feel like this many of us claim benifits as we have no other choice. consequently i am still on benifite now 9 months on as childcare isnt available for my daughter so i am going to wait til she goes to school. i just wanted to share my experiance incase there is others out there going through a similar experiance. dont feel ashamed or embarresed. hold ur head up high
added by zoeanne [Thu 27th Aug 2009 @ 08:43:46]
i am a single parent living at home still i am 18 and havnt got a clue how to start renting a council flat or house were should i start .
added by JMK [Mon 24th Aug 2009 @ 09:16:11]
djs63 it wont be difficult 4 ur daughter 2 claim benefits coz she aint with her fiance its by law she is a single parent now and she is entitled to it xxxAKSHAW to u ur daughter shud be claiming for her baby ages ago if she is not working she needs to go onto it if she goes in to a local jobcentre she mite be able to back date it for the ten months because any women in the uk not in employment is eligable to claim income support u get a 500 hundred pound grant for baby and working tax credits child benefit and tax credits all on top she shud get atleast £130 pound a week maybe more depends on situations xxxALIII u need to ring the jobcentre and say u want to make a new claim 4 income support now u have a baby u shud not be on jobseekers now u shud be on income support xx
added by taiyatai [Thu 6th Aug 2009 @ 10:22:03]
Hi I've just discovered that my 17 yo daughter is 6 months pregnant. She has split from her fiance and doesn't want him involved at all. Will this make it more difficult to claim benefits?
added by djs63 [Tue 28th Jul 2009 @ 13:12:47]
Hi, can anyone tell me how income support works, it all seems very confusing. My daughter is a single parent of a 10 month old and they are living with me. I am in full time work but my daughter isn't working at the moment. Does anyone know if my daughter can claim income support.
added by AKSHAW [Wed 22nd Jul 2009 @ 09:39:53]
Im 20, and my daughter is now 18months old, single parent and have gone bk to work. Must admit it's the most exhausting thing ive ever had to do but it's worth it. I get alot of help from the government and they now even pay 80% of my nursery fees as I am on such a low income. I work full time and now take home a very fair pay and a ten times better pay than before I had Izzabelle. I find it easier to cope financially now than I could before she was born. Good luck Mums Your Going to need it!! x
added by Beckajane [Wed 15th Jul 2009 @ 11:47:58]
i worry about money allt he time ive got a 3 and a half month old daughter and i dnt no how to apply for benefits i was on a joint jobseekers with her dad but since we split i dnt no how to apply for myself
added by Aliiii [Tue 14th Jul 2009 @ 17:57:41]
hi iv jst found out im pregnant and my partner has walked out saying tht he dosent want anything to do wiv me bcoz he doesnt want 1 and wants me 2 have a abortion which i will not do. im currently workin full time but once baby is born its going 2 b hard getin back 2 work coz i dnt have much surport if i went back it wud b part time which is 20hrs a week wot benefits would i b intiteld to im very confuesd
added by allidt85 [Fri 26th Jun 2009 @ 09:01:07]
Hi everyone! Can someone help me please? I've just found out that I''m six weeks pregnant, my expartner doesn't want me to keep it but I havent decided what to do yet - my biggest worry is being able to support myself financially, I work full time and what to continue to do this after the baby is born, can anyone tell me what benefits I will be entitled to? Many thanks x
added by 1663Sarah [Wed 3rd Jun 2009 @ 09:33:47]
hi people, im 7 months pregnant and im due in mid-july. i need someone to help me! i work on a part-time contract but as duty manager i'm expected to work more like 30+ hours a week. im unsure what benefits id be entitled to working so many hours, and id like to return to work as soon as i can. my partner wants to move out, but im not sure whether we'd benefit from it. i need someone to please help me and give me advice on whats the best thing to do. many thanks
added by esteemtodream [Fri 8th May 2009 @ 09:54:31]
My daughter is 15 and we have just found out she is 27 weeks pregnant. We are supporting her and she is going to be staying at home with us. The dad is not very supportive and out of work. Can anyone tell me of any benefits she would/could be entitled to before the baby arrives apart from £190 maternity grant.
Her dad and I both work but have an income of less than 40,000 p.a
added by patrl001 [Thu 23rd Apr 2009 @ 09:26:45]
hi everyone,
i was wondering if anyone could help. i am currently 30weeks preg with twin boys wich is fantastic but me and their father arnt together so im on my own. can anyone help me with what benifits i can claim or were to start i have tried the gouvenment website, rung the cab and jobcentre but still none the wiser. i am on stat mat pay my average monthly income is 1200 month but privately rent my outgoings are far more then my incomings and im currently panicking and worried bout what im going to do. any help or suggestions would be fantastic
added by 86sarah [Mon 20th Apr 2009 @ 09:34:34]
I am pregnant and due on the 8th July. I will be a single parent. I have just moved into a council rented flat and have been looking at what my out goings and my income will be when the baby is here. I will be getting maternity pay and (fingers crossed) something from babies dad, but this ONLY just covers what I will have going out. My Income before I go on maternity leave is - £18,500 and I want to return to work in Jan working part time (if I can) does anyone know of any help/support I could get until I do finish maternity leave? Thanks
added by xxjussiexx [Tue 14th Apr 2009 @ 12:52:26]
I am 22 weeks pregnant and work part time at a beauty salon which is way under 16 hours a week. i have no savings to help financially support my child who is due in 18 weeks i just need some advice on what benefits i can claim. i have no contact with the father as he wants nothing to do with the baby and its starting to worry me how i am going to cope.....
added by sarahbby [Wed 25th Mar 2009 @ 09:18:35]
Hi, i am a single parent to my little boy who is 16 months. im living with my parents at the moment but im moving into my own home soon, private land lord. I work 22 hrs a week and get working tax credits. I was just wondering if there is any type og grant or loan that i would be entitled to, just to get me on my feet in my new home. Thnks
added by missprior [Fri 20th Mar 2009 @ 09:13:21]
hi, iv got baby of 13 months and in the process of splittin up with his dad, we own our house an im lookin for rental, what kind of help would i get? daddy gives me nothing for our son, goes out n works full time n doesnt see why he should do anything to help me at home, he has never bought anthing for our son, says thats what benifits are for. i just dont know where to start. PLEASE HELP!!!!
added by jenj84 [Tue 17th Mar 2009 @ 09:26:03]
Hi. Im single mum to be, 38 weeks at the moment. My baby's father has just announced that once I'm out from hospital I have to find my new place. That's not the worst thing. I'm worried that I'm not going to be bale to have enough money to bring up my child. I've got Child credit and Tax credit forms. Is there anything else I could apply for? any other financial support? Please help....
added by youngmummy84 [Thu 12th Mar 2009 @ 09:07:39]
help! my ex husband changed his job and is buying flashy cars and going on holidays abroad but refusing to increase the child maintainance he sees his son once a month i work part time and been told that i cannot claim income support because am working but i work less than 16 hours so cant get working tax credits is there any help that i can get afraid of going to the csa

just to make things clear am not a 12 year old mom lol
added by proudmom12 [Tue 10th Mar 2009 @ 08:50:31]
I am a single parent of four young children, the youngest being twins. I was married for 10 years and have worked all my life, paying thousands in taxes, owning my own home, even starting my own business to allow me to work through pregnancy and 3 months after each birth.
It really annoys me that people tar all single mothers with the same brush. I would love to work to keep my sanity and even be £100 a week better off. However, the benefits system does not allow this when you rely on childcare and private rents as there are council housing lists 10 years long.
Meanwhile, my husband bucks the system through being self employed in his bachelor pad, getting away with giving me £50 a week.
added by oldladyinshoe [Tue 10th Mar 2009 @ 08:50:16]
HI,
I AM IN 9 MONTH PREGNANT NOW AND MY PARTNER JUST LEFT ME.I NEED HELP I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT KIND OF BENEFITS I AM ELIGIBLE AS A SINGLE MOTHER.
PLEASE IF SOMEBODY COULD HELP ME
AGGIE
added by AGGIE85 [Mon 9th Mar 2009 @ 09:29:28]
Hi,

I have been reading some of these comments and there's a lot of strong opinions on single mum either claiming or working. I can see both ways. One: working mum keeps you independant and interact with others and children can look up to you and see that you need to work to get where you want in life.

On the other hand, I can see why people give up work to spend quality time with their children; able to help them with homework, disapline them, sharing good news, being there for them and able to cook a decent a meal for when they return from school.

I am a single mum and at present working full time with daughter in creche. She will be starting school in September. I am now facing a situation on whether to give up work or not. The reception school start half days and then build it up plus I got to find cover for half terms and finishing at 3pm.

My work is finding it difficult to accommadate my needs plus reducing my hours means I am no better off finanacially working or no working. It worked out more and less equal.

I am 32 and worked since I was 16. To not work is not what I had in mind but at the end of the day, you have to think what is best for your child.

Personally I feel it is important for a child knowing that a parent is waiting for her at her school gates, eager to tell her stories to you, able to spend quality time listen and just be there for them.

Everyone got their own opinion and believes. However, I do not agree that people get themselves preggy just to get themselves on the housing list and I also don't agree that the Goverment tend to accommadate non UK citizen before us. There's no justice and majority of UK citizens feels the same way. But what can you do?????
added by Sazzy32 [Fri 27th Feb 2009 @ 09:38:03]
Hi I am currently a single parent who is fighting for support through csa for my kid, also there father gives no other support to them as he has her to her convenience when he feels like it. I have recieved a countless number of awful intimidating calls and texts off him which has upset both me and our kid. It has got to the stage wher I am moving county to get away from his imature behaviour to me and our kid so therefore have to give my job up a few months early to get all this sorted out, would I get any benefits to help me financially in the meantime for me just giving my job up? All advice would be greatly appreciated as I am at desperation!!
added by Paula1975 [Mon 23rd Feb 2009 @ 13:07:33]
hi i am 7weeks pregnant with twins my partner says he will leave me if i keep them. I have been of sick from work since october im only contracted for 16 hrs per wk wod i get help and how much also wod i be aligable to get my own place
added by lea88 [Thu 19th Feb 2009 @ 10:16:10]
hi all
i've just become a single parent and because of this i've had to leave my job as it ment i would have had to leave my 13year old alone until 2am which was never going to happen.
i've claimed benefits and i've now been offered a job but unfortunatly it is not 16 hours a week so won't qualify me to come of benefits and claim working tax credits.
the job would eventually lead upto 16+ hrs a week but not to start with.
How would it affect my benefits if i took it?
thanks
debs
added by debs2k2 [Fri 6th Feb 2009 @ 12:49:54]
I'd just like to say to those few people out there who believe poor people shouldn't be allowed to have children that they should find themselves lucky to have a job and stop judging other people.I have all of my qualifications, and I was in the RAF since I was 17 and have been in full time employment since so know how it is to work hard and make a life, but unfortunately due to our countries current situation I lost my job at christmas, and due to pregnancy problems such as heavy bleeding, cramps and fainting I have been unable to find another job, therefore I have to rely on benefits. I'm sure the majority of those people who do not work full time aren't simpy "sitting on their asses" all day doing nothing, and I'm sure they're a hell of a lot better mannered and down to earth than those of you who think you are better just because you have a safe job. It's hard to find work at the minute so I hope you don't lose your job - God forbid you would ever have to rely on benefit and sit on your ass all day.
added by samanthajones [Mon 2nd Feb 2009 @ 10:46:39]
Hiya, ive been reading some of your comments and god cant believe it, that basically single parents just go on income support for the sake of it thats bang out of order iv always worked since even b4 i left school had my son whose 5yrs old now n still went back to work when he was three mths old i believe that yes single parents shud try but its not easy being on your own or if uve been in hard situations n the csa dnt do jack either im not really bothered by that anyway but the point is i had to go on income support afta havin my second son 3 years later cos i got stuck wiv a job n got a new place so went on income support for the time being. Im now looking for a job and even thats been hard but im determined and im even gona do a course, cos i want to do it for myself and my boys n to not struggle anymore.

Thanks
added by nattygirl [Mon 2nd Feb 2009 @ 10:46:26]
Hey everyone... I am after some advice please!
I am now a single parent to my 18 month old daughter and need housing advice.
I am currently staying with family due to my relationship failing for what ever reasons, I returned to work after maternity leave but reduced my hours to 16hours a week which i earn approx £460 month, I also get working&child tax cred.
I cannot stay much longer with family as unfair on them and me! I am looking hoping to get help via housing benefit, does anyone know what kind of help I would get? I dont have any friends in my situation to ask as they either work full time or not at all!

Thank you in advance xx
added by katiescannell [Mon 26th Jan 2009 @ 09:41:17]
re: daddy1968

what a great, honest. unprejudiced post - thank you!
after also reading the snobby miss 'i know it all and i am gods gift to the human race' post - i was compelled to add my 2 pence!
i have worked hard since 16 years of age building up a career in broadcasting and having to fight against the chauvinism of a male dominated field all the way and constantly prove myself over and over. i did this for the love of my jobs and career path and dutifully along the way paid higher and higher taxes as my salary increased over the years. now, i have never been in a 'wealthy' financial position but i have always paid every penny of my own way and that of my ex-partner of 17 years and that of my dad in recent years after ill health rendered him retired.
4 years ago exactly i had a child with my ex partner and i took my standard maternity leave and returned to work mid way between full and part time according to my childs daily needs! all was fine until last year i was diagnosed with cancer, spent week after week in and out of hospital undergoing test after test until such time that the cancer over took my strengths and health and i could no longer continue with work and thus had to give up my job and my career and all that i had strived for in over 23 years. the cancer first appeared in one of my organs which ensued with me having to undergo major surgery and a recovery period of 3 months with 3 of the weeks being in hospital. during those three weeks in hospital - my partner packed his bags, cleared MY house out of everything i owned and up sticks and moved in with another woman. 17 years and on my sick bed after i losing all my financial independence and security - he ran away and left me with zero to my name and a 4 year old child.
now my point is this - i can no longer work and i am now a single parent with bills and costs like everyone else - does this mean i am a drain on society and an insult to working mothers as per the post by that silly person previously - i have to claim benefits which i have never done before in my life and i will have to struggle on something silly like £60 a week between me and my child - does anyone really chose this over financial freedom and self respect - i think not in the most part! life is tough and society can be tougher but i am as deserved of benefits paid for by the taxpayer as the next person. we have the system in place to support persons to be a stay at home parent - whether through choice or circumstance and i for one am grateful.

PS to LB07 specifically - there are many brilliant non-uk born persons in this country who contribute to the uk in different ways. it is foolish and blind sighted to 'box' people/groups. if visitors to this country need help then so be it - we are a 1st world country and we should help.
added by Smile07 [Fri 9th Jan 2009 @ 09:18:27]
how much do single parents receive
added by iyan [Wed 7th Jan 2009 @ 08:51:59]
can you get benefits if your under 16?
added by leahkelly94 [Tue 6th Jan 2009 @ 10:16:11]
dear oh dear oh dear !!!!!!!! , after reading the "total fantasy" post by beanonboard (fri 9th dec 2008) i would like to nominate her for parent of the decade after cycling 25 mile's a day to get to work , proberbly with a flat tyre on a rusty childrens bike uphill in the snow ! what a responsable parent ? lets just be thankfull you never came off your bike and disabled your unborn child ! secondly ,back to work with an 8 month old child where exactly ? with a parent of yours ? maybe we should congratulate them ? or was it the child minders/cresh ? left to eat from the floor in an understaffed over subscribed undertrained nursery ? , i take it you bonded well with your child in those precious little 8 months , or will we be picking up the tab for all the antisocial behaveyour in 10 years time ? i'd much rather give you the support now whatever the cost ! this is my point , before you give negative comments on other peoples aproach to parenting please remember circumstances differ , live's differ and some don't have the oppertunity to work so they need social care and support payed for by taxpayers who to be quite honest if you think child care, social money,child support is there biggest bill from tax payments , your way off ! try adding up the cost of red tape to make those payments , or maybe a pointless war ? or an ill afforded olympic games that the average single parent can afford to travel to let alone get in !
in fact the amount of money sqanderd this way would proberbly pay for every single parent on social care to live in a rent free 3 bed , with complimentry tickets to the games , and a limo to get there ! , by the way i'm sure they'll give all you hard ,hard working mums a wave as they pass you on your bike!
by the way , i'm a dad , having an easylife at work while my beautifull, patient, wife does the work of three men bringing up our children who i spend all my money on per month , apart from the £1000 amonth in tax i pay to help single parents have a decent standerd of living , wich there more than welcome to!
please comment......
added by daddy1968 [Mon 5th Jan 2009 @ 09:24:37]
hey was wondering if anyone could help please i'm a single parent with a son of 10 months im working part-time 16 hrs and im abt to start a full-time college course for nursing i was just wondering if anyone know what credits i would be intitled to claim? (if any) im claiming working tax credits and child tax credits just now but im worried i'll end up worse off goin to college than working any advise please!!!
added by suziesue [Mon 5th Jan 2009 @ 09:23:35]
is there any help out there for mothers who want to go back to work but have no child care or a child with allergies???
added by nickyhefford [Mon 5th Jan 2009 @ 09:23:30]
quote:Simple answer is don't have a child if you are not ready to work hard to support it!!! People who sponge should not be allowed to have children in the first place - its unfair to this country that is so in debt!!!!

Not everyone starts off as a single parent! I've been married for 4 years (spit up a week ago) and have two kids (2 years old and 4 month old). I worked through both of my pregnancies. Only reason I havent gone back this time is that I would have spent more money on childcare than what I would have earned!
Stop being so bitter!
added by Carmen1509s [Mon 5th Jan 2009 @ 09:23:22]
LB07

Hear Hear!!!!!
added by beanonboard [Fri 19th Dec 2008 @ 10:05:52]
O.k, I have been reading through some of your e-mails and am shocked by some!!! May I say that first off I am a full-time working mum and have been since my son was 8 months old and whilst pregnant cycling 25 miles a day to work (he is now 3)!!! My cousin is a mother of 2 daughters and is also working full-time!!

In reference to Becky555 - yes being a parent is important but so is contributing to the community and trying to pay your own way in life!! Its not majorly hard work thats just an excuse to sit around doing nothing all day! Simple answer is don't have a child if you are not ready to work hard to support it!!! People who sponge should not be allowed to have children in the first place - its unfair to this country that is so in debt!!!!

People at college or in re-training - fantastic - and should be supported - they are bettering themselves and their future life for their kids!!!!!!

I find it hard to sympathise with people that moan about not recieving enough money to sit on their ass! Get out and work - meet other people - stand up for yourself and build a better life!

Also I do not believe this country should be supporting others from abroad - it is wrong they have not been paying taxes in UK and we should not be a charity. They get housed before British people for fear of being racism - what is this country coming to - support your own before others!!!! I went to my local council for affordable housing - i would pay rent, council tax, water, gas, electric etc and all they told me to do was sell my car!!! Hmmm that way I would not have a job I would be able to get to - funny that!! Even though at my work place a foreigner got housed within 2 weeks!!! Lovely, what a fine example!!!

Men are generally ****** but hey thats life - choose more carefully next time - CSA are just useless and take most of the money for themselves (not that I have ever gone down that route) so don't even bother - take the ex-partner to court and get it down on legal binding contract that cannot be broken!!!

Lissie - Why are you pregnant again when you cannot afford it? And yes it is fraud as you are together but not living together - claiming 2 sets of money each for being single parents when clearly you are not single!!!

You may think I am rude but I am mearly stating the obvious - I am in favour of the single parent but only when they are willing to help themselves!!! Good Luck ladies and gents - any feedback on my comments, would love to hear from you!!!

LB07
added by lucyhj07 [Mon 3rd Nov 2008 @ 10:16:02]
hiya im 19 and a single mum, my daughter is 9 months. my maternity pay finished at the start of sep but i am not able to get a job as i am at college full-time so havent the time or the babysitters, what i am wanting to know is does anybody know what i am intitled to?and what i should be claiming to provide for me and my daughter, at the minute i receive child tax credit and child benefit. thanks
added by wahwah88 [Fri 10th Oct 2008 @ 09:19:20]
it annoys me how how much some people get becasue they dont work full time or what ever - me and my partner both work full time, pay all our bills etc - but all i will get is SMP from my employer at a fraction of what i normally earn- yet if i sat on on my arse and expected the council to pay my rent and tax i could do no work , stay at home and still get money for nothing!
hmmmm why is it i have been paying tax and nic since i left college????
added by Legs11andIsabelle [Tue 7th Oct 2008 @ 09:33:51]
okay. i dunno how many read this but could people help me find out information? i am 16 years old and am pregnant. i live and work in cambodia(south east asia next to thailand). i am a u.k resident and will have the baby there. i work everyday for $90 about 40 pound a month and i know i cannot raise the baby on that. i really love this country and have been here for nearly 2 years. i came with my dad who left for England 7 months ago. will i be able to claim anything being here? i dont want to return to the u.k but i know i need to for the birth. i have been supporting myself for a year and i am litterally scraping by. before i worked for free food and drink it sounds bad but i am so accoustomed and dont want to leave. can someone email me with information? i dont even need all the money you get for benifits. love_sucks269@hotmail.com
added by nattie269 [Tue 16th Sep 2008 @ 09:06:29]
for deborah1976 I am just 14 weeks pregnant and no one will employ me, due to personal issues with my last employment i felt i had to leave not knowing how hard it would be to get back into work, im literally on my feet every day looking for a job but as soon as i tell potential employees that i am just over 3months pregnant i get excuses that im not right for the job ect, dont assume because mothers pregnant or other wise are claiming benefits that they actually want to because i hate it, and want to get back into work!! I live on my own, so i have to make the rent, look after myself and still have to find a job, as soon as this baby is born and im able i will be going back to work. One very annoyed expectant scrounging mother Jakie01!!
added by Jakie01 [Wed 13th Aug 2008 @ 08:50:30]
How dare deborah1976 presume that all parents who stay at home to bring up their children are lazy! It's the hardest job in the world bringing up children. Im a lone parent bringing up a 1 year old and a two year old with little input from my ex husband. I need to be claiming lone parent income support to survive. I didn't set out to claim benefits for my children before the split we had mortgage. People fall into claiming benefits for various reasons.
I don't understand how anyone would want to bring children into this world and pay someone else to bring them up. Your children are so prescious and you should be proud to bring them up not to farm them off so you can have an easy life. Bringing up children is so hard to do, especially on your own.

I neary died having my first child i have been ill ever since, I'm not registered disabled because I'm working hard to bring up my own children. What would be the point of going through all of this to work to pay someone else, who doesn't care about your children, to look after them. They won't progress without the right amount of stimulation.
I also have standards, those are for my children to be brought up properly. My 2 year old goes to play school, in term, which I pay for so he can learn more communication and interacting skills and to give me one to one time with my 1 year old but I would never dream of dumping him there all day so I could have an easy life working!
Some poeple do sponge of the government, for instance those people who get pregnant to get a council house or people who have be "seeking jobs" for several years. I hope you can realise the difference between the people who claim benefits for the reasons the government has set aside the money and the people who do sponge.

I would love to know where these people get their ideas from that having children is going to be an easy ride, leaving someone else with the responsibility of caring for them. Don't forget that if you're going to pay peanuts you will get monkeys looking after you children.
added by becky555 [Thu 7th Aug 2008 @ 10:01:27]
Why are there so many of you moaning when your're on benefits and not doing anything to help your situation. OK i agree yes the fathers need to pay a way but that is why CSA is in place to help you out. There is no excuse to why any of you or your partners are on on income support/benefits unless you are deemed physically unfit to work and therefore you should be on a disability allowance. I am fed up of my taxes going to people because they are just too lazy to work, I am going to be a mum and i will be going back to work full time and if i can do it then so can you, I also have standards and would never lower myself to sponge off the benefits unless as i said i was registered disabled.

OUR GOVERMENT IS SO SO MESSED UP!!!
added by deborah1976 [Mon 4th Aug 2008 @ 09:12:33]
Hi,with regard to Ash2008,i'm sort of in the same situation as you and your girlfriend,i have one daughter by one man and have been a lone parent for almost 6 years now.had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years,we don't live together (he has his own place and has full custody of his 13 year old son),i have my own place (both are too small though for us all to live together),i am now 6 months pregnant with his child and although we are boyfriend and girlfriend,we can't financially afford to live together.i'm on income support and have told them of my change in circumstances and now have been called in by the "compliance team" (one stage below fraud for goodness sakes!) to i guess, try and prove to them that i have not been doing anything wrong and we are not living together.i'm also guessing that they will try and say i'm not entitled to income support anymore and that my boyfriend should be supporting me,my daughter and the new baby when it comes.fair enough the new baby but like you say what about my daughter from another relationship?it's a real mine field and very confusing and upsetting.i've spoken to the CAB and they advised to take in as much evidence to show that he runs his own household and i run mine.but whatever with the benefits system,it seems the more law abiding and honest you are the worse you seem to come off!will let you know the outcome.wish me luck!
added by lissie [Mon 21st Jul 2008 @ 08:54:50]
Hi,i am a 26 year old single mum to a 5 year old i work full time as a assistant manager which gives me hardly any time to spare to share with my son so when my son started pointing out that he never sees me i looked into cutting my hours but was so shocked by my discovery.I am so angry and disgusted with this goverment and how they work out benefits i couldnt believe that if i was to sit on my bottom all day and make no life for myself and my son i would get exactly the same amount as what i do now working 40 hours a week,its no wonder there are so many young mums nowadays getting pregnant to sponge all the benefits.how do the goverment expect these people to go to work when they are offering them the exact same money to do what they like everyday.I would of thought that if you worked more you would recieve more but as i found out this is not the case the more you worked the less they helped you out.i just cant seem to get my head around it so basically i could work halve the amount of hours i do now but would recieve the same amount of money because tax credits will replace the amount by wot i had cut down by.not much of an incentive to get people to work is it especially the ones who actually want to like me its rediculous
added by akindele [Thu 3rd Jul 2008 @ 08:52:01]
Hi, I wonder if I could have some advice. My girlfriend has 2 children with a man who has not ever paid for them and he lives in abroad in Sweden for 4 years but we dont know where he is, although we have phone numbers. My partner has been on income support for quite a few years and we have just very recently had a baby together. Her ex partner left her in rent arears with her housing assocation and I paid this off. We have had three solictors try and get her tenancy reinstated with no success as the housing association ignores letters to them. The housing association will not let me live in that address because my partner and her ex are registered there and they are known tresspassers although technically they should of changed that. Although we are together, I live elsewhere in another london borough, what will be the situation regarding my child and paying for her? I have read someones comments below saying they have two kids and one with someone else and they see him as the sole earner so stop her income support. Does this happen when the man lives with his child or will it happen anyway even when they dont live together and is one expected to pay for chidren that dont belong to him? I am still with mine although not living together so this is very confusing? If I don't live there and pay rent elsewhere what would happen? Although I will supply everything my baby needs it seems that the decent man gets punished for doing the right thing? I do not see why I should pay for children that are not mine? So if you are together, not living together - is this still seen as together? I wonder if someone could give advice on my problem?
added by Ash2008 [Wed 18th Jun 2008 @ 08:42:42]
hi im 16 years old and i am nearly 34 weeks pregnant im a single mum and i would like to know what type of benefits i am able to get and roughly how much will i get
added by gemgem1234 [Mon 9th Jun 2008 @ 08:41:45]
Does anyone know what benifits I can claim for with my own house. I'm a single person and in my 2nd trimester. I work full time and pay a mortgage. I can only find info about being unemployed and if you live in rented accomodation. I intend to take 26 weeks maternity leave but I won't be able to even cover my mortgage payments with the basic SMP. What else can i claim. Vix
added by russellvix [Tue 6th May 2008 @ 12:11:18]
I also need advice on this subject. I have 3 children, my baby's father and I are in a relationship but I live on my own, we do not live together, however, I am not with the father of my first two children and do not know his whereabouts.

I recently applied for income support and was advised to do so as a lone parent. I've waited and have been messed around by them for 3 long months; only for them to turn around and say that I am not entitled to income support as I have a partner. They said, even though we don't live together it's seen as an income coming in for myself. I explained to them that my partner is only supporting 'his' child and I cannot expect him to support my other two and that I don't work and don't have an income coming in. I also explained that he supports the child by providing clothes etc, not by giving money to me.

I intend to appeal against this decision but I need advice.
added by Mel19 [Mon 21st Apr 2008 @ 08:40:10]
This is to both sam & tami
this bit is to samhamer, can your partner not claim through the inland revenue for your maternity pay, usually thats where employers can claim through, you can still get working tax credits maybe & you will will get child benefit & child tax credits. its not as much money as you get while working but it gets you through, i would look into things more even phone to see what help yous can get when your on maternity pay there is always a few options, phone your local job centre & ask them about it, they are really good for infromation.

this is to Tami30, if you dont want to move in with your partner the now then thats fine, am the same situation as you but i have a 8month baby the now, i get my housing & council tax paid for me. also i get my child benefit & child tax & working tax which you will be entitled to everyone who has a baby is entitled to it, if your working more than 16 hours you will get working tax but if not you can be entitled to income support & the childs father will help with you so dont worry , you will get help with things. so go to your local council & ask for about gettin ghousing & tax benefit the now get it done asap cause its a pain at times, you need to send like what income you get every month & so so & go to your local job centre to see about gettin you r child tax forms & everything they are good with helping you with things, hope this helps.
added by lol86 [Thu 13th Mar 2008 @ 08:35:45]
My partner and I have just found out we are expecting but unfortunately this has come at a bad financial time, I work for my partner who is self employed and we can't afford to pay me maternity pay out of the company. My partneronly takes home £300 per week. What financial help can we get?
added by Samhamer [Wed 12th Mar 2008 @ 08:36:03]
My babies father and i have not been together very long and have decided that although i am carrying his baby it is too soon for us to move in together! I want to know if i live on my own do i have to claim single parent benefit to get housing benefit or can i just say that he is paying me maintenance?
added by Tami30 [Wed 20th Feb 2008 @ 08:41:32]
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