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I'm still not pregnant - what should I do?

Find out what steps you can take if you've been trying to conceive for a while and still aren't pregnant.
When you and your partner have decided you want to have a baby together, it's likely you'll want to conceive as soon as possible so you can start enjoying your pregnancy. But if months go by and you still haven't conceived, you may start to feel disappointed and wonder what's going on.

However it's important not to lose hope. It can take a while to get pregnant but many couples who have trouble conceiving in the first few months or even years go on to conceive naturally and have a healthy pregnancy. There are options out there, and steps you can take to find out why you might be having trouble conceiving.

I've been trying for several months

If you've been trying for a baby for less than a year and you're under the age of 35, there's no need to visit your doctor just yet. One in 10 couples take a year or more to conceive, so you may just have to wait a little longer.

It's worth remembering that conception is basically a matter of chance, and if you're aged between 20 and 25 you have a 25% chance of conceiving per cycle (the chances are 15% if you're between 30 and 35). It's possible that it will also take you longer to conceive if you've just come off the Pill and started trying without waiting for your cycle to return to normal.

There's still nothing to stop you going to see your GP however, if only to discuss your hopes and concerns, and get some helpful advice. It's likely that your doctor will recommend that you continue as normal, making sure that you are eating healthily, getting plenty of exercise, and reducing stress in your life as much as possible.

If you're over 35 and have been trying for 6 months or more, it may be a good idea to see your doctor at this point so that you can identify any issues that may make it harder for you to conceive and get them sorted right away.

I've been trying for over a year

If you're under 35 and have been trying to get pregnant for a year or more, it's best for you at this point to consult your GP to talk about your situation. Visiting your doctor will give you the chance to discuss your concerns and he or she will be able to give you advice for why it might take be taking you longer to conceive.

It's likely that if you've been trying for a year or more without success, your doctor will recommend that you take some tests to find out if there might be a possible problem. These may include smear tests, blood tests, urine tests, and possibly a sperm test for your other half. Your doctor is likely to ask about yours and your partner's medical histories, to determine if any illness you've had in the past might be affecting your fertility now.

Checking your blood will give your GP an idea of whether or not you are ovulating and if your hormones are at the right balance to conceive, among other factors that might affect your chances of getting pregnant. If after these tests everything comes back normal, it may just be that a little more patience is needed (as hard as it sounds!) and you'll hopefully conceive naturally in your own time by continuing to lead a healthy lifestyle.

What if there are problems with my tests?

If any of your tests come back with a result that might indicate possible fertility issues, your doctor will recommend that you see a fertility specialist. However daunting this might sound you shouldn't think that all hope is lost, as so many couples go on to conceive with or without fertility treatment. Seeing a fertility specialist could be just the help you need to finally conceive.

When you visit a fertility specialist you will probably have some more tests to determine if there is a problem. These may include more blood tests and ultrasound scans to check your womb, and may result in a prescription of fertility drugs to help things along.

The important thing to remember is to stay calm, however long it's taking you to conceive, and concentrate on leading a healthy lifestyle. Although easier said than done, minimising the feelings of stress when trying to get pregnant is likely to do wonders for your health as well as your chances of conceiving.

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Hello, I'm 20 and I've been with my partner for over 5 years now. We have been trying for a baby for nearly 3 years, it's frustrating and upsetting that I still havnt conceived month after month I think oh do I feel different. But nothing.
Then I get to scared to go to the doctors because of how young I am. But I have finally made an appointment I'm going there tomorrow. Still scared about what they will say about my age.
I'm ready to start a family I just hope it happens :/ x
by LisaMarieJon3s 20th Jun 2013, 3:38pm
Ive Also Been Trying For My Second Baby. I Had My Implant Removed 9Th Of October 2OO9 Its Now 16Th October 2O1O ! Everyone i Know Is Getting Pregnant But Me And I'm The One that's Been Trying The Longest. It Seems If You Dont Try As Hard You Get What Your Wanting So I'm hoping End Of This Month It Actually Works For Me.

a Lil Tip My Sister Said If Your Partner Drinks a Strong Coffee Before It Helps The Sperm Swim Faster It Gives It a Boost In Other Words.
by Simmy1986 18th Oct 2010, 10:18am

We have been trying for our 2nd baby for about 8months! Taking much longer than i expected and begin to worry! Is anyone else in this position and any successful stories to keep me positive?!

Thanks x
by lisaloo 13th Sep 2010, 9:59am
me and my partner have been trying for a baby since march 6th 2009 and we havent had any luck yet. is it normal to be this late?
by Nataliee 27th Aug 2010, 5:09pm
what is the best way to concive .and when i take chance to concive after periods
by punjabi 14th May 2010, 5:36pm
what should i do?we did everything even know my ovulation but stl not coming/.. mybe bcoz we are always tired of our work?pls give me an advice to get pregnant.. we almost a year.. m 25 n my husbnd s 31.. i have 28 days cycle i had a menstruation just last feb 14..pls help me..
by Alrish 14th May 2010, 4:14pm
Me and my partner have been trying for over a year to conceive. I had the implant (which i had out in Dec 08), since then i didn't have any periods until august last year, when I had a light period lasting 3 days, then 5 weeks later I had a litlle spotting for 2 days. I have done numerous tests, all of which have come back negative. My partner works away, a whilst he was back over Christmas, we had sex every day. Then this morning when I woke up, I had a little bleeding (spotting). Could this bleeding be implatation bleeding and I am pregnant, or could it be me periods starting again? Could someone please give me some advise on this. thank you
by janette87 7th Jan 2010, 10:03am
Good day
Mine its a question.Is it possible to conceive when your GP made some tests on you and told you that the other tube is blocked while the other one is partly blocked?Since told that we have been trying for twelve months with no success.
by Dups 30th Dec 2009, 10:02am
by GODIRA 17th Dec 2009, 4:38pm
me and my partner have been discussing having a baby, i have a rare blood type (reses negitive) i wasnt sure if there is anything i can do to help speed up conception and am a little confused on the whole ovulation day?? not sure how to work mine out. would appreciate your help. thankyou
by XhazyX 17th Nov 2009, 3:48pm
Im 26 years old nd my fiance and I have been trying to have a baby for a year..Before I had a 28 day cycle on my menstrual period, but then it changed to 36-38 day cycle..I always thought Im pregnant because my menstration is always delayed than what im expecting date..can you help me when i must know my ovulation day...
by schel 9th Nov 2009, 10:35am
I am 35 years old and my fiance and I have been trying for a baby for nearly a year now. I was diagnosed as having multiple fybroids this year and all the Dr's have said I need to try for a baby now, before they get bigger. We are so desperate for a baby and I am affraid my time is running out. I do not know what to do. Please help.
by wantababy35 3rd Nov 2009, 1:43pm
hi hun i would make an appointment with the doc so they can investigate, yours and your partners fertility.
could be something simple, which meds can sort out! in the meantime ive heard this can work ive tried it , when trying to fall pregnant with my third baby, after sex, try to avoid getting up, llie in bed on your side with one leg over your partners leg. good luck x
by bunnymama 28th Oct 2009, 2:03pm
I'm over 37, a kind of trying to get pregnant but it seems like I'm having difficulty to have one more baby again. I had a baby when I was 25 and then nothing after that as I was busy with my job. Suddenly, I realize that I should have one more if I'm lucky..

What shall I do? Me & my partner are not using any contraceptives now but it seems like its difficult for me to get pregnant? pls. help
by bakla 24th Sep 2009, 10:31am